Hmm did you notice the new layout? I like it, do you? Anyways one quirk about it is that there's no date on my posts! oh no! So i'll put the date for you and me for future sakes... or i'll prolly end up changing the layout to have the date displayed. Now onto the post...
January 4th, 2008
I was asked recently by someone what were the top 5 traits i looked for in a potential significant other and at first i thought "oh that can't be too hard" and i started to think, but when it comes down to it there are so many things that one would want in a significant other! However to me? I think i came up with 5 that i would rate as some of my top traits. These traits are all looking at the personality mind you, looks are all based on attractiveness for me, and well... maybe that'll be a different post topic. Hehe.
1. Food tastes - As simple as it sounds food is a very important factor. It's what brings two people together in an environment where you two are sharing in something that you BOTH enjoy. If she doesn't like what i like in food categories then how boring would that be? I know it works out for people where one person may be a vegetarian and the other not caring, but it always brings in that tension or disagreement gap and if you have meals with your significant other as often as you should, things will get grindy at one point or another. Food is what we all need and for me it's what i indulge in. I enjoy my food to its fullest and i, as silly as it sounds, have massive cravings for certain types of food. Especially when i'm college, i have lots of choices if i went out to eat! Food tastes dont have to be EXACTLY the same, but i mean it's not that hard to agree on a majority of my "liked" food tastes... right? With agreeing food tastes she also has to be open-minded about food! Being adventurous with your food is something that is hard to find with people, and granted i always have my "regular" food choices, i like to have someone else to go out and "try" something new, since for both of people it's a new thing to explore and that will be an area in your lives that will always grow! =]
2. Independent - Girls who are independent take care of themselves. No doubt in that. But wait... so doesn't that mean she doesn't need YOU in her life? On the surface yes... let's take a look deeper... Being independent entails that your life is in your control or somewhat in your control. You know what needs to be done and you know when it needs to be done by! If you need to find out something you do just that! No sitting around and thinking that the answer will come walking by. Essentially you can take care of yourself with mostly no help, this includes having a job and sustaining yourself, by yourself! Not saying that they're a loner, social life is a totally different aspect! Now having an independent girl is important because as an independent girl she takes care of everything in her life and if there's something wrong with it she tries to fix it, she cherishes what she has since she's earned it in her own way, or she's put effort into making it what it is. Thus having a relationship in her life she will take care of it and cherish it for what a relationship should be (ideally). Granted there's no one that's completely independent, but when you get to know someone you can always sense some sort of independence in them or lack there of.
3. Knows what she wants - When you think of this you may say "that goes hand in hand with an independent girl... right?" Well I think there's room to say that a girl could be independent but she also might not know what she wants in life. She knows how to take care of herself, but when it comes down to decisions to make she either doesn't care enough or seeks advice for the right direction and whatever sounds nice she goes with! This is all very specific and probably extreme since almost everyone knows what they want in some form or another, but not everyone expresses it. In a relationship it's very important that both people rely on each other for support! Thus when it comes down to it when, say for example, the guy asks the girl what she wants to eat, she should have some sort of idea in her mind, and not answer with a weak "whatever you wanna eat". I know it happens in all relationships, but say if the girl has no say in what goes on, then that's just really pointless! So maybe a better way of explaining this is to change "knows what she wants" to "headstrong" on a very light level because if she's too headstrong... then she becomes too controlling? maybe... haha. Hopefully you get the general idea of this trait... somewhere between the two extremes...? - Fail!
4. Comfortable with herself - When i say this i mean it in the sense of expressing herself well enough that she doesn't have to think twice about whatever. This is probably almost impossible to have in any person, but hey we can always try right? haha. One aspect about this is music! Music is a very big part of me. Sharing similar music tastes is always a plus! Then when it comes down to it, dancing! I definitely want someone i can dance with, as cheesy as it sounds. But hey! I like dancing! and if she's comfortable with herself she will too! Hehe. Then furthermore if she's comfortable with herself she won't really have a hard time expressing herself to me and what she needs/wants. (See it ties into a headstrong girl! sorta. haha)
5. Finally - Chemistry/Thinking frequency - Probably the most important trait among many others, but having chemistry covers alot of other ideal traits i suppose. I think you know what chemistry is and i dont really have anything specific to go into with it. Though the same "thinking frequency" is key for many reasons. To name one, sense of humor, if two people in a relationship aren't on the same thinking frequency they won't really think each other's nick nacks are funny, and how boring is that? Being able to understand each other is very important to me and yeah you might say "well no DUH"... but there are always those few relationships that fail in this department. I think it's a little obvious as to why it would be important to me or anybody.
Ok so these 5 traits are totally not my top 5 per say. There's no way to put words to what I look for in a girl, when i meet her and get to know her i'll just know! right? right. So yet another epic fail for this post since it's all very idealistic haha. But it's definitely something i look for, but seeing as i'm a very flexible guy these traits mean almost nothing as long as she's just a little of each of them... or maybe not at all! hahaha. OR! Maybe it's that these few traits are what i notice in girls and when i do notice them.. they ring in my mind as "Oooo she's a catch!" and from there... anything can happen.
I hope you enjoyed reading even though it was as random and un orthodox as i didn't want it to be.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
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