Dating – Defined as :: Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple…
Dating is an interesting issue in life. It’s a simple concept, which makes it that much more complex. For example, a simple dinner/evening out with someone for some quality one-on-one interaction (of the opposite sex) can be either with the intentions of getting to know someone for a friendship or a potential relationship in the future. However, the problem with encounters like this is that each of the two person’s intentions is not defined beforehand and usually never is. That is if one person asks another out on a “date-date”, but in this day and age it’s hard to come by anyone who actually asks for a straight-up “date”. Though in the past I’m sure it was a very normal thing to do and I’m sure people still do it today, so I suppose this is merely one side of the issue. Nevertheless, looking at this concept with the mystery of knowing if something is a date or not it usually happens that one person sees it as a date and the other doesn’t until the very end or an after analysis of their night. Then they get the thought “omg that was a date…” There are of course obvious signs of a date that people usually point out. The main/most common sign is the “guy” pays for whatever the two people do, dinner, coffee, night out, etc etc. Though this can be simply seen as a friendly/nice gesture and can easily be overlooked since one person paying can also happen anytime with any one-on-one interaction!
Dates also come in all sort of sizes and qualities. There are coffee dates, to dinner dates, to play dates and so on and so forth. This adds more to the fray where two friends could be just having fun! There are many people who have a girl/guy “best friend” and more likely than not one of the two will crack and build up more than mutual emotions for the other. This leads to disaster most of the time (epic fail!). So with all this confusion why don’t people just confront and see where the relationship/friendship is going? Well for one, awkwardness. Who wants to ask their “friend” if they think the friendship is growing into something more? To put your friend in that position is almost unfair unless they flat out say no, which then could potentially lead to awkward thoughts about the other person since they know that they were possibly interested. Secondly, it could be obvious if you and the other person are dating by your interactions with each other. It’s hard to gauge since everyone is different, but you could usually go with your gut instinct and be right about where it’s going. But it’s always bad to assume! Thirdly, people may just like playing "The Game" and as much as playing the game is complicated it also brings out a feeling of desire and chase in another person (and seeing if they can potentially change the feelings in the other person towards them), something to work on instead of being just neutral in it all.
This is all hypothetical and probably not as complicated as i put it to be, but again it also may be just that at the same time. Everyday we're encountered by social/relational interactions that we ourselves can never know the true motivations behind whatever is said/done. So what can we really do? Some people like to interpret things a lot, and personally i believe everyone interprets things to a certain extent if it pertains to them on a semi-significant level... lol... sooo my advice? don't over think... it's the best for you and the other person, take things as they are and go with it.
Totally random, but ever have one of those moments where you see someone you haven't seen in awhile while passing by in a hall or something and there's that gibber jabber that's exchanged? Like "Whoa... hey!... you!... what's up!" 2nd person, "Oh hey!... what are you doing? ohhh ____? cool... we'll talk later!! I gotta go... people... goin... gah!" annnd they're gone or you've passed way beyond talking distance... yeah...
ANYWAYS... this post was bound for failure ever since i didn't finish it in 1 sitting... /sigh... hopefully appreciate some of my insight to.. whatever i really talked about here... seems like alot of my posts turn from formal to informal alot... how unorthodox lolz.
Life is life and we all live it.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
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