Determination - Defined as :: simply not giving up. No matter how hard things get, or how badly you want to just give up, you keep on going. Sometimes you just want to let go, when it seems like what you're going for is just out of reach, sometimes you tell yourself if what you're trying to get is worth the great amount of effort that you put in it...
Motivation - Defined as :: That thing in the back of your mind that drives you, no matter what seems to be stacked against you.
These two terms go hand in hand really well. They encapsulate the two words that dance around a person's life when they have a goal set in life. In the case of this blog post we are talking about the goal of "working" on a relationship. Though it sorta sounds bad to be "working" on a (potential) relationship, but inevitably when everyone looks at it it is basically what we all do. Firstly we all require a good foundation of CONFIDENCE that gives us the motivation to start on the journey of starting a relationship. From there on in there needs to be lots and lots of determination because we all know that nothing ever goes our way. And if things do go your way it's not the way you saw it playing out... and if they are... well then you're just really lucky hahaha (very pessimistic there i know hehehe). Nevertheless the results of having great motivation and determination in making a relationship happen can be immensely rewarding in the sense that your work has paid off, as mentioned in the definition of determination. On the flip side motivation and determination can also be the beginning of someone's utter failure. The idea of determination blinds people to the "signs". What "signs"? Well i'm sure you have a general idea of what kind of signs there are. In the general interaction between males and females the guy's are more clueless than the girls. This is to say that it's easier for girls to tell if a guy likes her, where as it's harder for guys to find out if girls like them. This is for the reason (i believe) that girls are generally more "friendly" than guys. This extra friendliness comes off as a toss up between being JUST friendly or something a little more, but guys never really know. That is of course if it's obvious... and most guys know the signs that scream that she isn't interested. HOWEVER I've also heard that even if a girl doesn't come off as interested as he may infer from certain events/conversations, there is still a chance she may still like him and it is merely coincidence that those "signs" were mis interpretted. I know it's very wishy washy, but really what isn't these days?
So in the end determination and motivation in one's mind should be taken lightly. Too much determination and you come off as a creeper, too little and you lose your self confidence... Motivation should be kept in check as well. Too much motivation will lead to hurting yourself too much, too little motivation leads to you doing nothing, being reserved in a sense and never knowing of "what if". I believe that if you at least try to go that little extra "step" a whole new world will be revealed to you, but it all comes down to if we're willing to go that extra step. I've seen both good and bad things come of going the extra step... i'd say 50%... so i'd say those are pretty good odds, don't you think? haha...
Life is life and we live it.
Thanks for reading,
DY
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