Closure - Defined as :: To attempt to 'move on' following the termination of a relationship with another individual.
Translation :: To tie up loose ends in a relationship that may not have been cleared up, hence "Closure".
Closure can be a rare thing in our lives. It is only necessary when WE are cut off in a relationship. Where WE encounter the unexpected and things just end. It's complicated to realize and usually people don't know they need closure until later in their "recovery". It isn't always needed to get over someone in your past however, but it will most likely leave you wondering those "what ifs" of your interactions with the other person. It's all relative on how the relationship ended actually, some relationships end in a way where there isn't a NEED for closure, but it's one of those "nice" things to have before ending that chapter in your life.
Personally in my last (major) relationship my "recovery" process was delayed by the fact that i had no closure what-so-ever and, given that i don't think i even got any to this day, it merely prolonged my struggle with dealing with a "big break up". There were alot of "special" circumstances surrounding the relationship. One of those major circumstances being it being a Long-distance relationship (LDR). When serious LDR's come to an end i feel it's very hard to do anything about! (This also applies to non LDRs!!!) You can't really confront the issue face-to-face since you can't see the other person physically (you don't see your ex too often if it's a LDR, unless you're in high school or something i guess?). So instead you spend a lot of the time dancing around the issue and attempting to get your mind off of it by taking up other hobbies etc, but when it comes down to it you end up thinking about your ex here and there. Granted it's different with EVERYONE i'm sure. In our society there are people who go through boyfriend's and girlfriend's like water and then there are those who are quite the opposite. With that in mind even those who have a lot of "significant others" run into relationships where they need closure. Ultimately most people do not actually follow through with having a "closing talk" with their ex. Either because it's unneeded or they're not given the opportunity. The problem in this all is that one person feels that there is no need for closure and they sort of *look the other way* if the other person in the relationship needed some sort of closure and in the end nothing happens.
Sure we can all toughen up through it all and just "move on", but i believe, as a instinct, we all sit down and want to know those 'what if' moments in our lives.
Random :: So this past week the discovery of a mouse in my apartment came to my attention. How? I left a couple Lindor Truffles on my desk and let's just say Carlton (named mouse) got to them overnight. Very scary too considering it was literally RIGHT next to my head when i was sleep!!! O= So my initial solution was to clean my room and hide all my food in a sturdy box. This initially didn't work since i'm sure Carlton told his friends and they visited my room to see if there was any free food as delicious like previously served Lindor Truffles lying around. Next i researched all the "best" ways of getting rid of mice. Among the popular traps and poisons i came across a nice solution that is sort of like a win-win solution! What's this you think? Peppermint essence oil! Yes the pleasant smell of Christmas apparently deters mice from hanging around your place. Granted it has to be a peppermint oil that DOES NOT have sugar alcohol (duh) and is usually fairly strong. The type of peppermint oil i picked up recently to use has actually worked (i think) in keeping Carlton from coming back into my room. Even though i'm very wary at night when i'm falling asleep to the slightest noises to make sure Carlton isn't just trying to trick me. Nevertheless i don't see anymore mice poop (which they poop A LOT) thus i believe it has worked. Then on top of that there's a slight scent of peppermint in my apartment whenever i come in the front door (win!). I don't think i got a full strength peppermint oil and i'm going to find some more today (more concentrated)!!
Thanks for reading,
DYung
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