I'm going to fulfill one of my biggest life goals in October!!!! DJ Tiesto the #1 DJ in the WORLD will be in MA!!!
So amazing that i'm getting this chance... I was almost afraid he would retire or something and I'd never see him LIVE... and seeing him live is going to be super amazing!
One more thing to add to this AMAZING event... his new hit single I will be Here will most likely be played at the concert!!! gahhhh!!!
WOOT!!!
I'm currently going with 1 friend for sure... i wish more people would appreciate such talent and amazingness... Europeans know where it's at.
Anyways, can't wait! Basically only thing between me and tiesto is summer session finals!!! =D!!
DYung
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Sunday, August 9, 2009
Relationship Mixer #5
Commitment :: Defined as :: This is a hard one, so i found this little short that encapsulates the meaning fairly well i think...
Commitment is a huge decision with any aspect of our lives. In the realm of relationships (vs commitments in life that are minor such as committing to cooking a good meal, sleeping more than 8 hours, cleaning your room, etc) commitment is a very strong "action". As the above passage said "Commitment is what, Transforms the promise into reality." which is basically saying that a commitment is an action that shows someone else that we are prepared to take on any hardships/stumbles that commitment may have in store for the future. So when looking at relationships, and we're talking about serious relationships, it is one of the most significant point in the relationship where each party commits to each other. One fallacy in this concept is that in a relationship it's very hard to tell when one person is ready to move to that crucial stage. Though i suppose it depends on each couple and how open they are to each other about such feelings... But in the very early stages of any relationship or even the middle stages there's always a hesitation in commitment. Both males and females have consistently pulled a "I'm not ready for commitment" card on their significant other. So basically they're not ready to think about that far into the future with the person they are with. This is pretty much the worse thing in a relationship because at this point one person has "confessed" their commitment to the other and the party that's "not ready for commitment" has just broke the other person's heart... then it gets all gushy and uneasy with each other... and it's probably really awkward haha... Of course there's the opposite extreme that they are both willing to "wait" it out for each of them to get on the same "level" as the other... but come on... when does that EVER happen in a relationship. I believe that if two people in a relationship are growing differently in their lives and they are not at the same stage it is very hard for them to take things to a serious level without one of them questioning the others intent of the relationship, which ends up in "breakup" usually or a very long waiting period before getting serious. I'm not saying this to be pessimisstic, but as a general rule, we should probably be careful of which relationships we get ourselves into. In this day and age i'm fairly confident... 65% of people know the warning signs of a relationship that won't work out. It's just a matter of time before they realize it however (infatuation blinds people in relationships, etc etc). And i am also definitely not saying that when we're involved with someone to break it off if we think they're not on the same level as us, but it will definitely be a speed bump in the future. The early works (dating) of relationships are merely getting to know someone else anyways so what's the harm in that? None i'd say, some may say it's leading the other person on, but in the end if you don't think it's the right thing to pursue, they can't say anything about it really because you two haven't commited to each other.
Now the action of commitment is hard and almost impossible to define, but i was engaged in a conversation once that really had me thinking it was the right mindset for commitments. It goes to say that the amazing 3 words of "I love you" is basically your commitment to that other person. However, this is in a very traditional sense, which is very hard to find these days. You here a lot in bad break ups where one party will say "I thought he/she loved me..." or "He/she said he/she loved me!" and... well... that just goes to show that whenever the couple started saying they loved each other was not the right time or it was said in a very superficial sense (without them knowing of course). Love is a very strong word. Sure you can say you love sushi, driving, shopping, etc, but as i'm sure you know those are all objects of this world (exception: we Love God and our families! =D) and not your significant other. I suppose i'll categorize saying "I love you" to a signficant other is almost like saying that you're going to marry them, it's that strong of a word. And the actual marriage is merely a public announcement that you and that person are together... forever! This idea is a very conservative view on commitments. But if you really sit down and think about a commitment and apply it to our society today. We should try to stray away from what we observe as bad practices of using the word Love. It's just thrown around too much and it comes out of people's mouth's as if it's saying you like taking long showers. So then where can we distinguish between what's genuine love and the superficial love we throw around? And that's where we can make the difference... in relationships. Just to accept the societal standard that we can "love" almost anything we see on a day to day basis, we should slow things down when in a relationship and save those precious words for the right day and time. Don't let it come off as something "natural" to say. It should be a VERY well thought out decision by you, for you to commit to your significant other. Relationships fail a lot where the "Love" is brought into the picture, it makes breakups harder and it gives people the false sense of security, if said at the wrong time in a relationship.
So the whole 'love' thing is not the only view on the idea of commiting to a significant other i'd say. I don't really want to go into any crazy details on the other ways two people can be committed to each other. In my mind the idea of "I love you" as a commitment driven phrase in a relationship is a very realistic issue in our lives. There have been too many hearbreaks in this world to prove that saying "I love you" as a superficial/casual thing to say to your significant other leads down the road to which there are many pot holes and speed bumps... figuratively. In the end, no one will ever know if it was the right time to say "I love you" to their significant other... that's the catch in it all! I suppose I could be just encouraging you, as the reader, to be careful in your decisions and what you get yourself involved in. There are too many aspects to consider when going into a relationship and to be honest we never get the time to sit down and think things through to put things into perspective for ourselves...
Life is life and we all live it.
End note :: This was a pretty hard topic to write about in just one post without rambling on forever (and to save my brain from overloading, it's been a long day..)
DYung
8/9/09
Commitment is what
Transforms the promise into reality.
It is the words that speak
Boldly of your intentions.
And the actions which speak
Louder than the words.
It is making the time
When there is none.
Coming through time
After time after time,
Year after year after year.
Commitment is the stuff
Character is made of;
The power to change
The face of things.
It is the daily triumph
Of integrity over skepticism.
Commitment is a huge decision with any aspect of our lives. In the realm of relationships (vs commitments in life that are minor such as committing to cooking a good meal, sleeping more than 8 hours, cleaning your room, etc) commitment is a very strong "action". As the above passage said "Commitment is what, Transforms the promise into reality." which is basically saying that a commitment is an action that shows someone else that we are prepared to take on any hardships/stumbles that commitment may have in store for the future. So when looking at relationships, and we're talking about serious relationships, it is one of the most significant point in the relationship where each party commits to each other. One fallacy in this concept is that in a relationship it's very hard to tell when one person is ready to move to that crucial stage. Though i suppose it depends on each couple and how open they are to each other about such feelings... But in the very early stages of any relationship or even the middle stages there's always a hesitation in commitment. Both males and females have consistently pulled a "I'm not ready for commitment" card on their significant other. So basically they're not ready to think about that far into the future with the person they are with. This is pretty much the worse thing in a relationship because at this point one person has "confessed" their commitment to the other and the party that's "not ready for commitment" has just broke the other person's heart... then it gets all gushy and uneasy with each other... and it's probably really awkward haha... Of course there's the opposite extreme that they are both willing to "wait" it out for each of them to get on the same "level" as the other... but come on... when does that EVER happen in a relationship. I believe that if two people in a relationship are growing differently in their lives and they are not at the same stage it is very hard for them to take things to a serious level without one of them questioning the others intent of the relationship, which ends up in "breakup" usually or a very long waiting period before getting serious. I'm not saying this to be pessimisstic, but as a general rule, we should probably be careful of which relationships we get ourselves into. In this day and age i'm fairly confident... 65% of people know the warning signs of a relationship that won't work out. It's just a matter of time before they realize it however (infatuation blinds people in relationships, etc etc). And i am also definitely not saying that when we're involved with someone to break it off if we think they're not on the same level as us, but it will definitely be a speed bump in the future. The early works (dating) of relationships are merely getting to know someone else anyways so what's the harm in that? None i'd say, some may say it's leading the other person on, but in the end if you don't think it's the right thing to pursue, they can't say anything about it really because you two haven't commited to each other.
Now the action of commitment is hard and almost impossible to define, but i was engaged in a conversation once that really had me thinking it was the right mindset for commitments. It goes to say that the amazing 3 words of "I love you" is basically your commitment to that other person. However, this is in a very traditional sense, which is very hard to find these days. You here a lot in bad break ups where one party will say "I thought he/she loved me..." or "He/she said he/she loved me!" and... well... that just goes to show that whenever the couple started saying they loved each other was not the right time or it was said in a very superficial sense (without them knowing of course). Love is a very strong word. Sure you can say you love sushi, driving, shopping, etc, but as i'm sure you know those are all objects of this world (exception: we Love God and our families! =D) and not your significant other. I suppose i'll categorize saying "I love you" to a signficant other is almost like saying that you're going to marry them, it's that strong of a word. And the actual marriage is merely a public announcement that you and that person are together... forever! This idea is a very conservative view on commitments. But if you really sit down and think about a commitment and apply it to our society today. We should try to stray away from what we observe as bad practices of using the word Love. It's just thrown around too much and it comes out of people's mouth's as if it's saying you like taking long showers. So then where can we distinguish between what's genuine love and the superficial love we throw around? And that's where we can make the difference... in relationships. Just to accept the societal standard that we can "love" almost anything we see on a day to day basis, we should slow things down when in a relationship and save those precious words for the right day and time. Don't let it come off as something "natural" to say. It should be a VERY well thought out decision by you, for you to commit to your significant other. Relationships fail a lot where the "Love" is brought into the picture, it makes breakups harder and it gives people the false sense of security, if said at the wrong time in a relationship.
So the whole 'love' thing is not the only view on the idea of commiting to a significant other i'd say. I don't really want to go into any crazy details on the other ways two people can be committed to each other. In my mind the idea of "I love you" as a commitment driven phrase in a relationship is a very realistic issue in our lives. There have been too many hearbreaks in this world to prove that saying "I love you" as a superficial/casual thing to say to your significant other leads down the road to which there are many pot holes and speed bumps... figuratively. In the end, no one will ever know if it was the right time to say "I love you" to their significant other... that's the catch in it all! I suppose I could be just encouraging you, as the reader, to be careful in your decisions and what you get yourself involved in. There are too many aspects to consider when going into a relationship and to be honest we never get the time to sit down and think things through to put things into perspective for ourselves...
Life is life and we all live it.
End note :: This was a pretty hard topic to write about in just one post without rambling on forever (and to save my brain from overloading, it's been a long day..)
DYung
8/9/09
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Disappointment...
That's what i feel right now... i didn't do that well on my first thermo exam... and in order for me to pull off a decent grade (Like an A) i need to basically ACE the next midterm and the final....... BLAHHHH
I am full of fail....
the balance of Academics, Friends, and Sleep... is slowly slipping away from academics... but that will change!!! good bye friends... or sleep............. just for the next month!
I'm going to start doing more studying ahead of time and more practice problems!!! RAWR BUCKLE DOWN - RAGE TIME!
I really hope i can pull off a good grade in thermo... =T
7/21/09
I am full of fail....
the balance of Academics, Friends, and Sleep... is slowly slipping away from academics... but that will change!!! good bye friends... or sleep............. just for the next month!
I'm going to start doing more studying ahead of time and more practice problems!!! RAWR BUCKLE DOWN - RAGE TIME!
I really hope i can pull off a good grade in thermo... =T
7/21/09
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Monday, June 8, 2009
Justice will be served!
This ticket was issued where there is NO residential parking-only sign. If you are familiar with the area there are residential-only signs but only in the inner drive-thru's of the Chester Park community. I was parked away from these signs and on the main part of Massachusetts Avenue, of which the signs do not indicate resident only parking. (In front of 580 Mass. Ave.)I hate the City of Boston just for cases like this where i was NOT parked in residential parking... such bull crap... i've been parking in that area for the LAST SIX MONTHS.... and i wasn't given a ticket then??? WTF... so stupid... honestly... they think they can make up rules on the spot and get their ticket quota up? yeah right. i know what i can or can't do. even my realtor told me i could park where i parked since he lived in the area for a year with no resident sticker (for reference my realtor was a really nice guy, gave us a break on the fee, gave us pointers, etc, awesome guy). Least to say i'm glad to be getting rid of my car (returning it home to jersey) because of stupid little things like this, but at the sametime I'm going to miss having the freedom of going wherever i want pretty much... relying on MBTA makes going places take up more time... oh well.
Thank you for your consideration in this appeal.
BLAH - I KNOW YOU HATE ME CITY OF BOSTON..........
/end rant
PS - i saw someone with the Three Wolves T-shirt from my previous post..... hahhaahahahahahaahahahaha.....
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Internet Awesome #1
So I stumbled upon this while at work (of course) and HAD to share.
All from Amazon.com
As a preface:: these are customer reviews that are just... ridiculous and hilarious :)
#1 Comment :: 8,244 of 8,313 people found the following review helpful...
#1 Comment :: 74 of 75 people found the following review helpful...
Breakthrough Wolf T-Shirt - Available in Various Sizes (Follows up above posts)
Oh and this deserves a look...
Hope you enjoyed reading!
DYung
All from Amazon.com
As a preface:: these are customer reviews that are just... ridiculous and hilarious :)
Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes
Visit the link to see the T-Shirt design...#1 Comment :: 8,244 of 8,313 people found the following review helpful...
This item has wolves on it which makes it intrinsically sweet and worth 5 stars by itself, but once I tried it on, that's when the magic happened. After checking to ensure that the shirt would properly cover my girth, I walked from my trailer to Wal-mart with the shirt on and was immediately approached by women. The women knew from the wolves on my shirt that I, like a wolf, am a mysterious loner who knows how to 'howl at the moon' from time to time (if you catch my drift!). The women that approached me wanted to know if I would be their boyfriend and/or give them money for something they called mehth. I told them no, because they didn't have enough teeth, and frankly a man with a wolf-shirt shouldn't settle for the first thing that comes to him.#2 Comment :: 1,529 of 1,556 people found the following review helpful...
I arrived at Wal-mart, mounted my courtesy-scooter (walking is such a drag!) sitting side saddle so that my wolves would show. While I was browsing tube socks, I could hear aroused asthmatic breathing behind me. I turned around to see a slightly sweaty dream in sweatpants and flip-flops standing there. She told me she liked the wolves on my shirt, I told her I wanted to howl at her moon. She offered me a swig from her mountain dew, and I drove my scooter, with her shuffling along side out the door and into the rest of our lives. Thank you wolf shirt.
Pros: Fits my girthy frame, has wolves on it, attracts women
Cons: Only 3 wolves (could probably use a few more on the 'guns'), cannot see wolves when sitting with arms crossed, wolves would have been better if they glowed in the dark.
Unfortunately I already had this exact picture tattooed on my chest, but this shirt is very useful in colder weather.#3 Comment :: 990 of 1,025 people found the following review helpful...
So I'm looking for threads that say, "Hey baby...I'm real boss!" when I stumble upon this epic creation. The wolves spoke to me in a language all their own; it was like German, Mongol, and Bitchin all mixed together. I mean, one wolf howlin at the moon is major...but three???
I ordered next-day air (if only there was same day!), and, of course, a size smaller than usual to ensure the closeness of the wolves to my chest hair. When the package arrived, I tore it open, and I SWEAR angels sang. I think it was Freebird. I immediately removed my "No Fat Chicks" shirt, and replaced it with this finery. Lemme tell you: AW YEAH.
I'll spare the details of my conquests since I started wearing this shrit; suffice to say, I'm swimming in a sea of babes the likes of which are usually found on those K-Tel infomercials. I'm also more confident at work, and expect to be promoted to cashier soon. I owe everything to this shirt (I should say "shirts", since I now own 23 of them).
Sea Cows T-Shirt
Visit the link to see the T-Shirt design...#1 Comment :: 74 of 75 people found the following review helpful...
It's not everyday that someone comes into possession of a shirt like this. I received it as a gift from my grandmother- something I was at first worried about- she's usually the lame grandma who gives ugly sweatshirts from American Eagle or disgusting pants from Hollister and makes you wear them every time she sees you (to think, some people haven't caught on to the trend of wearing chains on their pants!), but as soon as I opened this I knew it was different. There, on top of packing paper, sat the most magnificent Sea Cow I've ever seen- the solemn face held me captivated. As I looked upon the face of those Sea Cows, I knew that they knew- they knew my struggle in life, they knew (as I did) that I could be someone in this shirt.#2 Comment ::
Now, I'm not the type of person to dress fancy when I go out, but I had a last-second change of heart as I was getting into my mom's car to go to my weekly Yu-Gi-Oh tournament. I had a feeling that those two Sea Cows would give me luck, so I raced back inside to put it on; and as I arrived at the tournament, stepping out of my mom's 2001 Chrysler mini-van, I locked eyes with the most beautiful women I've ever seen. The sun shone behind her, illuminating the purple and pink stands of dyed hair, her ears- substantially gauged- nearly touched her shoulders, her eyes glinted, almost hidden by large bulbous pimples, gaudy eye shadow, and press-on eyelashes; it was at this moment that our eyes locked and I knew she would be the Arbiter to my Master Chief.
"Are those Sea Cows?" she said, surveying the ocean scenery adorning my chest.
"Yup!" I responded, chains on my jet-black pants rattling in the light breeze.
"Can I touch them?"
She slowly extended an erect pointer finger with gnarled nails, chewed down short, and cuticles bleeding. As she rubbed her finger over the face of the largest Sea Cow, I shuddered slightly. Releasing the courage stored within those Sea Cows, I slowly grasped her hand, intertwined my fingers with hers.
"Want to be girlfriend and boyfriend?" I exclaimed. "We can leave this tournament and go to Denny's. I'm sure my mom can pick us up if your parents drive."
"No need. I brought my bike- you can ride on the handlebars." She whispered toward me, the smell of tuna and Funyuns emanating from her yellowed teeth.
It was from this day forth that I fell in love with Denise, and I owe it all to this Sea Cow shirt. We've been in love for 14 hours now, most of which we've spent beating the last level of Kingdom Hearts in my mom's basement, but we've also started planning our wedding. I'm thinking a Sea Cow and Howling Wolf theme...
I love my Sea Cow shirt, even more than I love my ex-girlfriends!It only gets BETTER....... But to save space I'll just post the link to... scroll down to the comments
How could I not love a shirt that gave me my life back? You see, several months ago, I purchased a Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes, and it changed my life! After 30 years I finally moved out of my parent's living room and got a place of my own in their basement! When I wore my Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes out in public, I would turn more than a few heads! Women began to notice me, and then even talk to me! After a while, I had several women following me, and asking to come back to my "den"... of course I let them.
My parents began to complain about the noise at night, they said that all the howling, panting and growling noises were keeping them up. They also began to complain about the smell. But since I was wearing my Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes, I had the chutzpah to tell my parents that "it's my territory, and I'll mark it anyway I want to!"
I thought I had it made! A place of my own... seven ladies who lived with me, and every night we would go on successful "hunts" and grab the raw pork chops and hamburger out of my parent's `fridge before they could come home from work to cook, and thus spoil, all that wonderful raw meat... ah what a daring soul I was while wearing my Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes!
Then one evening, as me and my ladies were "frolicking", my parents knocked on our door and said that it was ten pm, and we had been "at it" since five, and could we perhaps keep the noise level down, just for this one night?
Then it hit me... we started at 5, and now it was ten. We had been frolicking for five hours... which meant that I had had an erection which had lasted for 5 hours. Five hours! That's a whole hour more than four! In a panic I called 911 and told them I had had an erection that had lasted for more than four hours, and what should I do? I swear I heard laughter over the phone before they hung up on me. In a panic, I stripped off my Three Wolf Moon T-Shirt, Available in Various Sizes and went to the corner of the room where my pile of laundry was.
As I pawed through the mound of wrinkled shirts and old leisure suits, I pulled out my most recent acquisition, the Sea Cow shirt. The second my eyes fell on the image of those peaceful, bloated and majestic animals... my stiff member instantly became limp and flaccid, a perfect imitation of the Sea Cow's beautifully wrinkled and dangling trunk... I was saved!
In celebration of my survival, I suggested to my ladies that we eat out this evening, my treat! So, I went up and grabbed all the salad from my parent's `fridge and we sat by the pool and dined on the amazingly succulent leafy greens. My girlfriends soon tired of this however, and left me. And so now, my life is my own again! The bite marks are healing, and I moved back into my parent's living room, as the fleas in the basement were really irritating. And now, I spend my days languidly floating in the pool and noshing on a wonderfully selection of chef salads, or bean sprouts and kale. Now that I have "the good life" and no longer have to worry about satisfying the appetites of seven girlfriends, I have gained over 100 lbs, which is not easy to do on a diet of cabbage sprouts and kale let me tell you! And I owe it all to the amazing Sea Cow shirt!
Breakthrough Wolf T-Shirt - Available in Various Sizes (Follows up above posts)
Oh and this deserves a look...Tuscan Whole Milk, 1 Gallon, 128 fl oz
For the nerdy of us...The Story about Ping (Reading Railroad Books) (Paperback)
#1 Comment :: 9,179 of 9,486 people found the following review helpful...PING! The magic duck!Man I love the internet!Using deft allegory, the authors have provided an insightful and intuitive explanation of one of Unix's most venerable networking utilities. Even more stunning is that they were clearly working with a very early beta of the program, as their book first appeared in 1933, years (decades!) before the operating system and network infrastructure were finalized.
The book describes networking in terms even a child could understand, choosing to anthropomorphize the underlying packet structure. The ping packet is described as a duck, who, with other packets (more ducks), spends a certain period of time on the host machine (the wise-eyed boat). At the same time each day (I suspect this is scheduled under cron), the little packets (ducks) exit the host (boat) by way of a bridge (a bridge). From the bridge, the packets travel onto the internet (here embodied by the Yangtze River).
The title character -- er, packet, is called Ping. Ping meanders around the river before being received by another host (another boat). He spends a brief time on the other boat, but eventually returns to his original host machine (the wise-eyed boat) somewhat the worse for wear.
If you need a good, high-level overview of the ping utility, this is the book. I can't recommend it for most managers, as the technical aspects may be too overwhelming and the basic concepts too daunting.
Problems With This Book
As good as it is, The Story About Ping is not without its faults. There is no index, and though the ping(8) man pages cover the command line options well enough, some review of them seems to be in order. Likewise, in a book solely about Ping, I would have expected a more detailed overview of the ICMP packet structure.
But even with these problems, The Story About Ping has earned a place on my bookshelf, right between Stevens' Advanced Programming in the Unix Environment, and my dog-eared copy of Dante's seminal work on MS Windows, Inferno. Who can read that passage on the Windows API ("Obscure, profound it was, and nebulous, So that by fixing on its depths my sight -- Nothing whatever I discerned therein."), without shaking their head with deep understanding. But I digress.
Hope you enjoyed reading!
DYung
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Relationship Mixer 4
Mind-Games :: Defined as :: psychological tricks (reverse psychology, etc..) used to gain an advantage on one's adversary.
At any point in a relationship there can be any sort of mind game going on. Granted i know a lot of people who hate such mind games as do i. In an engaged boyfriend/girlfriend relationship there are instances where each party tests the other on certain things. I would say that it goes for both sides of a relationship where the guy or girl will throw questions/tests at the significant other to see if they are "dedicated", "committed", or any of those major needs/wants in an ideal relationship. It usually sucks to be put in these kinds of situations, and you also can usually get that little clinch in your mind saying "Oh crap what's the right answer??". Obviously you will know the "right" answer, but your instinct answer may not be that "right" answer and you find yourself shunned for a bit. It sucks to put it plainly. And I don't know who gets the worse end of the spear, guys or girls, but as a guy who's experienced such "tests" it's never something to look forward to. So why do we do such things? As the definition of "mind-games" says :: "used to gain an advantage of one's "adversary"" Does putting a significant other into a situation where you want to hear a certain answer or they're being "insulting/mean/insensitive/etc" fair?? Since if they are wrong you then have an "advantage" over the situation and thus they are stuck in whatever direction you throw them in. Now you may say "that never happens to me!", but if you really think about it there is always a point where you are either the victim or the one playing the "mind-game" with the significant other. You may not realize right now since some people are really good with their words and can hide the intentions behind each question along with hiding their reaction to your answer. It can almost be like constant reverse psychology (in the extreme cases that is). Back to the question of whether it's fair or not, and obviously it isn't fair at all! Thankfully though not everyone does it to the extent of hindering a relationship, but there are those people who want to always have the upper hand in a relationship and will keep their significant other on a leash without them even realizing it! I've met people who LOVE mind-games and when 2 mind-game addicts come into play it's like a never ending cycle of messing with each other (i've witnessed this happen). On the other hand situations where there are constant mind-games usually never work out, it's all just fun and games until someone gets caught up in it too much and gets hurt. There are situations that call for mind-games, where a significant other needs to probe the other person's life to make sure things are alright, but these are sort of a normalized thing in relationships I'd say. The bad thing is when a small "test" is given and the tester over reacts to it, but that's going off-topic i think...
Mind-games aren't just in relationships. In the "dating" scene there's probably more and more of it. To take a template/example :: Guy and girl go out on a "date-ish", it's great and all, date ends and the "3 day rule" passes (for the guy to call or w/e). Girl over reacts and thinks the guy is a "jerk" for not calling her or talking to her after 3 days since clearly by tradition if the guy really likes her genuinely he would have. This is where mind-games are seen as the stupidest thing in the world. By the standards of the "3 day rule", which is a mind-game in itself for both guys and girls, the guy is labelled as a "jerk", that's unfair right? Then say 6 days pass and the guy wants to meet up again or "hang out". Here's where mind-games fail and ruin opportunities. For the guy he might be thinking, "I wanna take things slow and get to know her a little better before getting too involved..." Ok... and for the girl, "What the heck took him so long? He must not be interested..." and from there on in both the guy and the girl are completely confused to each other's intentions. Ok, i know that was a totally isolated example (since the roles could also be reversed and "thoughts" still applied to both sexes), but i hope you see what i'm getting to, which is that in this day and age we are almost "wired" to think there is a hidden intention behind certain actions done by the opposite sex. In a sense we think that any interaction between someone we "like" and us is some sort of mind-game where in reality it may not be at all! So now we're sorta stuck in the middle where we accept it as a mind-game and play along or just take things as they are and don't over think it. In my opinion :: I think it's always best not to complicate things and just go with whatever comes into our lives without over thinking things too much (keyword :: "too") Mind-games are easily avoided if you just go with what you want to do! So take for example, I like to get to know a potential significant other to a fair extent before i even consider take it to the next level per say. No mind-games on my end, but the problem with this is if the other person thinks there's a mind-game involved! Epic. Fail. So where does this leave us? With the fact that mind-games as inevitable as they are... just plain suck since everyone is different in their own "game" ( and i say this in the most relative definition being your ability to interact with the opposite sex ).
So i don't really know what a good conclusion statement would be. I guess I'd suggest to never assume things in your interactions with people especially with significant (or potential) others. Assuming is a big part of mind-games and is bad in general haha -enough said.
Life is life and we all live it.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
At any point in a relationship there can be any sort of mind game going on. Granted i know a lot of people who hate such mind games as do i. In an engaged boyfriend/girlfriend relationship there are instances where each party tests the other on certain things. I would say that it goes for both sides of a relationship where the guy or girl will throw questions/tests at the significant other to see if they are "dedicated", "committed", or any of those major needs/wants in an ideal relationship. It usually sucks to be put in these kinds of situations, and you also can usually get that little clinch in your mind saying "Oh crap what's the right answer??". Obviously you will know the "right" answer, but your instinct answer may not be that "right" answer and you find yourself shunned for a bit. It sucks to put it plainly. And I don't know who gets the worse end of the spear, guys or girls, but as a guy who's experienced such "tests" it's never something to look forward to. So why do we do such things? As the definition of "mind-games" says :: "used to gain an advantage of one's "adversary"" Does putting a significant other into a situation where you want to hear a certain answer or they're being "insulting/mean/insensitive/etc" fair?? Since if they are wrong you then have an "advantage" over the situation and thus they are stuck in whatever direction you throw them in. Now you may say "that never happens to me!", but if you really think about it there is always a point where you are either the victim or the one playing the "mind-game" with the significant other. You may not realize right now since some people are really good with their words and can hide the intentions behind each question along with hiding their reaction to your answer. It can almost be like constant reverse psychology (in the extreme cases that is). Back to the question of whether it's fair or not, and obviously it isn't fair at all! Thankfully though not everyone does it to the extent of hindering a relationship, but there are those people who want to always have the upper hand in a relationship and will keep their significant other on a leash without them even realizing it! I've met people who LOVE mind-games and when 2 mind-game addicts come into play it's like a never ending cycle of messing with each other (i've witnessed this happen). On the other hand situations where there are constant mind-games usually never work out, it's all just fun and games until someone gets caught up in it too much and gets hurt. There are situations that call for mind-games, where a significant other needs to probe the other person's life to make sure things are alright, but these are sort of a normalized thing in relationships I'd say. The bad thing is when a small "test" is given and the tester over reacts to it, but that's going off-topic i think...
Mind-games aren't just in relationships. In the "dating" scene there's probably more and more of it. To take a template/example :: Guy and girl go out on a "date-ish", it's great and all, date ends and the "3 day rule" passes (for the guy to call or w/e). Girl over reacts and thinks the guy is a "jerk" for not calling her or talking to her after 3 days since clearly by tradition if the guy really likes her genuinely he would have. This is where mind-games are seen as the stupidest thing in the world. By the standards of the "3 day rule", which is a mind-game in itself for both guys and girls, the guy is labelled as a "jerk", that's unfair right? Then say 6 days pass and the guy wants to meet up again or "hang out". Here's where mind-games fail and ruin opportunities. For the guy he might be thinking, "I wanna take things slow and get to know her a little better before getting too involved..." Ok... and for the girl, "What the heck took him so long? He must not be interested..." and from there on in both the guy and the girl are completely confused to each other's intentions. Ok, i know that was a totally isolated example (since the roles could also be reversed and "thoughts" still applied to both sexes), but i hope you see what i'm getting to, which is that in this day and age we are almost "wired" to think there is a hidden intention behind certain actions done by the opposite sex. In a sense we think that any interaction between someone we "like" and us is some sort of mind-game where in reality it may not be at all! So now we're sorta stuck in the middle where we accept it as a mind-game and play along or just take things as they are and don't over think it. In my opinion :: I think it's always best not to complicate things and just go with whatever comes into our lives without over thinking things too much (keyword :: "too") Mind-games are easily avoided if you just go with what you want to do! So take for example, I like to get to know a potential significant other to a fair extent before i even consider take it to the next level per say. No mind-games on my end, but the problem with this is if the other person thinks there's a mind-game involved! Epic. Fail. So where does this leave us? With the fact that mind-games as inevitable as they are... just plain suck since everyone is different in their own "game" ( and i say this in the most relative definition being your ability to interact with the opposite sex ).
So i don't really know what a good conclusion statement would be. I guess I'd suggest to never assume things in your interactions with people especially with significant (or potential) others. Assuming is a big part of mind-games and is bad in general haha -enough said.
Life is life and we all live it.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
April is just not my month...
Man it's freakin HOT in my office right now... anyways this past month has been very eventful... in many different ways however... In particular is what's happened with my car.
I've had my car in Boston since January. It's been a fairly easy experience and nothing's really gone wrong except i got one parking ticket for street cleaning cause i thought it was suppose to start in April... turns out main "arteries" of Boston are "cleaned" all year round... cept for the fact that i had been parking on Mass Ave for a good month when i got the ticket... makes no sense... /sigh. The next incident was when i got pulled over... in April for going through 2 yellow/red lights. I admit it was stupid of me since i literally SAW the cop at the first light... then he pulled up behind me... then i casually went through the 2nd light... but both were yellow to red!!! (though the first one i sorta tried to stop... but ended up in the middle of the road so i quickly accelerated forward [in front of the cop car] in order to avoid being a traffic hazard! legit right?) Anyways he pulled me over after the 2nd light and i ended up not getting a ticket (thank goodness!). He seemed more interested as to why my passengers were looking scared haha... I told him we were going to work etc etc. And he just gave me a warning to "take it slower next time"... which i wasn't even speeding to be honest... so now i'm conscious about it whenever i get to a green light, but i get the feeling in the back of my head that it's going to turn yellow and i'll get pulled over lol!!!... but i still run through yellow lights... oh well, everyone does it!.
Next incident was middle of April where my car got broken into because i forgot to clean my windshield of the mark a GPS (which wasn't in the car...) makes when it's attached to your window... so my fault /sigh... i had gotten into the parking space around 430 AM from a long night out... then passed out and woke up at 2pm where i soon found out after (around 4 PM) that my car was MISSING from where i parked it... epic fail... through the whole hassle it had gotten towed by a company in BRIGHTON, which makes no sense as well since there's a towing lot 1 mile away from my apt... paid a 120$ towing fee, then 100$ for the repair job on the window. Nothing was stolen except a few dollars i had in the car and alot of stuff was shuffled around... that's a good thing... There were some complications with it being fixed but in the end i got it fixed the monday after it happened... so like 2 days with the car without a passenger window (cept the plastic over it, which is still a hassle/annoying). To top that incident off, the next day after i got it fixed i got a parking ticket near my apartment for being in a "resident parking only zone", which is BS since i've parked there SOO many times and haven't gotten a ticket... so now i'm even more careful as to where i park... such a hassle to search around though...
Fast forward to TODAY... i woke up LATE (645 vs 610) and rushed to get ready... no shower... just changed and left... on my way to work i was driving and some lady pulls in front of me from my left and then proceeds to make a right turn... but does it O-SO-VERY slowly... i end up trying to go around her left, but she like almost makes a complete freakin STOP before turning... freaking RIDIC... i end up hitting her in the back with my front right corner of my car... pull over the side a little and she says she won't report anything since her car is barely touched... and what happened to my car?? well it's really not that bad, but there's a small dent in my fender... plus the cover for my blinker light is gone, but the light still works... I guess it coulda been worse?? but i also could have avoided having it happen... if i only was patient enough and possibly more awake... ughh MAJOR SIGH!!! one of the things i told myself not to do in boston with my car was to get into an "Accident" and even though nothing major happened, just like a little love tap that broke my signal cover and a little dent... it still frustrates me... I'm glad she was a nice lady though... i still exchanged information even though i'm the one at fault and she said it wasn't really necessary... hopefully she doesn't turn it around on me and report it! (but she was really nice) she even offered to let me call her to go get a good repair place she knew of that serviced volvos, which she also had. Anyways... hopefully things don't get worse in these next 2 months i have the car in Boston...
Sooo total costs for having my car in Boston??
+40$ parking ticket
+120$ Towing
+100$ repair job
+15$ stolen from car
+40$ resident parking ticket
+25$ front signal covering
+time spent dealing with car ordeals 0$
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-4 months of "private" parking - around 400$ -> 600$ total when july comes around
-time convenience for having my car close to my apartment (relative to where i park on the street) AND travelling around Boston to wherever - 0$ but hey time is money!
kinda even on both sides... but that's sorta bad haha...
/end rant
Thanks for reading,
DYung
I've had my car in Boston since January. It's been a fairly easy experience and nothing's really gone wrong except i got one parking ticket for street cleaning cause i thought it was suppose to start in April... turns out main "arteries" of Boston are "cleaned" all year round... cept for the fact that i had been parking on Mass Ave for a good month when i got the ticket... makes no sense... /sigh. The next incident was when i got pulled over... in April for going through 2 yellow/red lights. I admit it was stupid of me since i literally SAW the cop at the first light... then he pulled up behind me... then i casually went through the 2nd light... but both were yellow to red!!! (though the first one i sorta tried to stop... but ended up in the middle of the road so i quickly accelerated forward [in front of the cop car] in order to avoid being a traffic hazard! legit right?) Anyways he pulled me over after the 2nd light and i ended up not getting a ticket (thank goodness!). He seemed more interested as to why my passengers were looking scared haha... I told him we were going to work etc etc. And he just gave me a warning to "take it slower next time"... which i wasn't even speeding to be honest... so now i'm conscious about it whenever i get to a green light, but i get the feeling in the back of my head that it's going to turn yellow and i'll get pulled over lol!!!... but i still run through yellow lights... oh well, everyone does it!.
Next incident was middle of April where my car got broken into because i forgot to clean my windshield of the mark a GPS (which wasn't in the car...) makes when it's attached to your window... so my fault /sigh... i had gotten into the parking space around 430 AM from a long night out... then passed out and woke up at 2pm where i soon found out after (around 4 PM) that my car was MISSING from where i parked it... epic fail... through the whole hassle it had gotten towed by a company in BRIGHTON, which makes no sense as well since there's a towing lot 1 mile away from my apt... paid a 120$ towing fee, then 100$ for the repair job on the window. Nothing was stolen except a few dollars i had in the car and alot of stuff was shuffled around... that's a good thing... There were some complications with it being fixed but in the end i got it fixed the monday after it happened... so like 2 days with the car without a passenger window (cept the plastic over it, which is still a hassle/annoying). To top that incident off, the next day after i got it fixed i got a parking ticket near my apartment for being in a "resident parking only zone", which is BS since i've parked there SOO many times and haven't gotten a ticket... so now i'm even more careful as to where i park... such a hassle to search around though...
Fast forward to TODAY... i woke up LATE (645 vs 610) and rushed to get ready... no shower... just changed and left... on my way to work i was driving and some lady pulls in front of me from my left and then proceeds to make a right turn... but does it O-SO-VERY slowly... i end up trying to go around her left, but she like almost makes a complete freakin STOP before turning... freaking RIDIC... i end up hitting her in the back with my front right corner of my car... pull over the side a little and she says she won't report anything since her car is barely touched... and what happened to my car?? well it's really not that bad, but there's a small dent in my fender... plus the cover for my blinker light is gone, but the light still works... I guess it coulda been worse?? but i also could have avoided having it happen... if i only was patient enough and possibly more awake... ughh MAJOR SIGH!!! one of the things i told myself not to do in boston with my car was to get into an "Accident" and even though nothing major happened, just like a little love tap that broke my signal cover and a little dent... it still frustrates me... I'm glad she was a nice lady though... i still exchanged information even though i'm the one at fault and she said it wasn't really necessary... hopefully she doesn't turn it around on me and report it! (but she was really nice) she even offered to let me call her to go get a good repair place she knew of that serviced volvos, which she also had. Anyways... hopefully things don't get worse in these next 2 months i have the car in Boston...
Sooo total costs for having my car in Boston??
+40$ parking ticket
+120$ Towing
+100$ repair job
+15$ stolen from car
+40$ resident parking ticket
+25$ front signal covering
+time spent dealing with car ordeals 0$
---------------------
-4 months of "private" parking - around 400$ -> 600$ total when july comes around
-time convenience for having my car close to my apartment (relative to where i park on the street) AND travelling around Boston to wherever - 0$ but hey time is money!
kinda even on both sides... but that's sorta bad haha...
/end rant
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Relationship Mixer 3 + Mouse hunt
Closure - Defined as :: To attempt to 'move on' following the termination of a relationship with another individual.
Translation :: To tie up loose ends in a relationship that may not have been cleared up, hence "Closure".
Closure can be a rare thing in our lives. It is only necessary when WE are cut off in a relationship. Where WE encounter the unexpected and things just end. It's complicated to realize and usually people don't know they need closure until later in their "recovery". It isn't always needed to get over someone in your past however, but it will most likely leave you wondering those "what ifs" of your interactions with the other person. It's all relative on how the relationship ended actually, some relationships end in a way where there isn't a NEED for closure, but it's one of those "nice" things to have before ending that chapter in your life.
Personally in my last (major) relationship my "recovery" process was delayed by the fact that i had no closure what-so-ever and, given that i don't think i even got any to this day, it merely prolonged my struggle with dealing with a "big break up". There were alot of "special" circumstances surrounding the relationship. One of those major circumstances being it being a Long-distance relationship (LDR). When serious LDR's come to an end i feel it's very hard to do anything about! (This also applies to non LDRs!!!) You can't really confront the issue face-to-face since you can't see the other person physically (you don't see your ex too often if it's a LDR, unless you're in high school or something i guess?). So instead you spend a lot of the time dancing around the issue and attempting to get your mind off of it by taking up other hobbies etc, but when it comes down to it you end up thinking about your ex here and there. Granted it's different with EVERYONE i'm sure. In our society there are people who go through boyfriend's and girlfriend's like water and then there are those who are quite the opposite. With that in mind even those who have a lot of "significant others" run into relationships where they need closure. Ultimately most people do not actually follow through with having a "closing talk" with their ex. Either because it's unneeded or they're not given the opportunity. The problem in this all is that one person feels that there is no need for closure and they sort of *look the other way* if the other person in the relationship needed some sort of closure and in the end nothing happens.
Sure we can all toughen up through it all and just "move on", but i believe, as a instinct, we all sit down and want to know those 'what if' moments in our lives.
Random :: So this past week the discovery of a mouse in my apartment came to my attention. How? I left a couple Lindor Truffles on my desk and let's just say Carlton (named mouse) got to them overnight. Very scary too considering it was literally RIGHT next to my head when i was sleep!!! O= So my initial solution was to clean my room and hide all my food in a sturdy box. This initially didn't work since i'm sure Carlton told his friends and they visited my room to see if there was any free food as delicious like previously served Lindor Truffles lying around. Next i researched all the "best" ways of getting rid of mice. Among the popular traps and poisons i came across a nice solution that is sort of like a win-win solution! What's this you think? Peppermint essence oil! Yes the pleasant smell of Christmas apparently deters mice from hanging around your place. Granted it has to be a peppermint oil that DOES NOT have sugar alcohol (duh) and is usually fairly strong. The type of peppermint oil i picked up recently to use has actually worked (i think) in keeping Carlton from coming back into my room. Even though i'm very wary at night when i'm falling asleep to the slightest noises to make sure Carlton isn't just trying to trick me. Nevertheless i don't see anymore mice poop (which they poop A LOT) thus i believe it has worked. Then on top of that there's a slight scent of peppermint in my apartment whenever i come in the front door (win!). I don't think i got a full strength peppermint oil and i'm going to find some more today (more concentrated)!!
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Translation :: To tie up loose ends in a relationship that may not have been cleared up, hence "Closure".
Closure can be a rare thing in our lives. It is only necessary when WE are cut off in a relationship. Where WE encounter the unexpected and things just end. It's complicated to realize and usually people don't know they need closure until later in their "recovery". It isn't always needed to get over someone in your past however, but it will most likely leave you wondering those "what ifs" of your interactions with the other person. It's all relative on how the relationship ended actually, some relationships end in a way where there isn't a NEED for closure, but it's one of those "nice" things to have before ending that chapter in your life.
Personally in my last (major) relationship my "recovery" process was delayed by the fact that i had no closure what-so-ever and, given that i don't think i even got any to this day, it merely prolonged my struggle with dealing with a "big break up". There were alot of "special" circumstances surrounding the relationship. One of those major circumstances being it being a Long-distance relationship (LDR). When serious LDR's come to an end i feel it's very hard to do anything about! (This also applies to non LDRs!!!) You can't really confront the issue face-to-face since you can't see the other person physically (you don't see your ex too often if it's a LDR, unless you're in high school or something i guess?). So instead you spend a lot of the time dancing around the issue and attempting to get your mind off of it by taking up other hobbies etc, but when it comes down to it you end up thinking about your ex here and there. Granted it's different with EVERYONE i'm sure. In our society there are people who go through boyfriend's and girlfriend's like water and then there are those who are quite the opposite. With that in mind even those who have a lot of "significant others" run into relationships where they need closure. Ultimately most people do not actually follow through with having a "closing talk" with their ex. Either because it's unneeded or they're not given the opportunity. The problem in this all is that one person feels that there is no need for closure and they sort of *look the other way* if the other person in the relationship needed some sort of closure and in the end nothing happens.
Sure we can all toughen up through it all and just "move on", but i believe, as a instinct, we all sit down and want to know those 'what if' moments in our lives.
Random :: So this past week the discovery of a mouse in my apartment came to my attention. How? I left a couple Lindor Truffles on my desk and let's just say Carlton (named mouse) got to them overnight. Very scary too considering it was literally RIGHT next to my head when i was sleep!!! O= So my initial solution was to clean my room and hide all my food in a sturdy box. This initially didn't work since i'm sure Carlton told his friends and they visited my room to see if there was any free food as delicious like previously served Lindor Truffles lying around. Next i researched all the "best" ways of getting rid of mice. Among the popular traps and poisons i came across a nice solution that is sort of like a win-win solution! What's this you think? Peppermint essence oil! Yes the pleasant smell of Christmas apparently deters mice from hanging around your place. Granted it has to be a peppermint oil that DOES NOT have sugar alcohol (duh) and is usually fairly strong. The type of peppermint oil i picked up recently to use has actually worked (i think) in keeping Carlton from coming back into my room. Even though i'm very wary at night when i'm falling asleep to the slightest noises to make sure Carlton isn't just trying to trick me. Nevertheless i don't see anymore mice poop (which they poop A LOT) thus i believe it has worked. Then on top of that there's a slight scent of peppermint in my apartment whenever i come in the front door (win!). I don't think i got a full strength peppermint oil and i'm going to find some more today (more concentrated)!!
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Relationship Mixer 2
Determination - Defined as :: simply not giving up. No matter how hard things get, or how badly you want to just give up, you keep on going. Sometimes you just want to let go, when it seems like what you're going for is just out of reach, sometimes you tell yourself if what you're trying to get is worth the great amount of effort that you put in it...
Motivation - Defined as :: That thing in the back of your mind that drives you, no matter what seems to be stacked against you.
These two terms go hand in hand really well. They encapsulate the two words that dance around a person's life when they have a goal set in life. In the case of this blog post we are talking about the goal of "working" on a relationship. Though it sorta sounds bad to be "working" on a (potential) relationship, but inevitably when everyone looks at it it is basically what we all do. Firstly we all require a good foundation of CONFIDENCE that gives us the motivation to start on the journey of starting a relationship. From there on in there needs to be lots and lots of determination because we all know that nothing ever goes our way. And if things do go your way it's not the way you saw it playing out... and if they are... well then you're just really lucky hahaha (very pessimistic there i know hehehe). Nevertheless the results of having great motivation and determination in making a relationship happen can be immensely rewarding in the sense that your work has paid off, as mentioned in the definition of determination. On the flip side motivation and determination can also be the beginning of someone's utter failure. The idea of determination blinds people to the "signs". What "signs"? Well i'm sure you have a general idea of what kind of signs there are. In the general interaction between males and females the guy's are more clueless than the girls. This is to say that it's easier for girls to tell if a guy likes her, where as it's harder for guys to find out if girls like them. This is for the reason (i believe) that girls are generally more "friendly" than guys. This extra friendliness comes off as a toss up between being JUST friendly or something a little more, but guys never really know. That is of course if it's obvious... and most guys know the signs that scream that she isn't interested. HOWEVER I've also heard that even if a girl doesn't come off as interested as he may infer from certain events/conversations, there is still a chance she may still like him and it is merely coincidence that those "signs" were mis interpretted. I know it's very wishy washy, but really what isn't these days?
So in the end determination and motivation in one's mind should be taken lightly. Too much determination and you come off as a creeper, too little and you lose your self confidence... Motivation should be kept in check as well. Too much motivation will lead to hurting yourself too much, too little motivation leads to you doing nothing, being reserved in a sense and never knowing of "what if". I believe that if you at least try to go that little extra "step" a whole new world will be revealed to you, but it all comes down to if we're willing to go that extra step. I've seen both good and bad things come of going the extra step... i'd say 50%... so i'd say those are pretty good odds, don't you think? haha...
Life is life and we live it.
Thanks for reading,
DY
Motivation - Defined as :: That thing in the back of your mind that drives you, no matter what seems to be stacked against you.
These two terms go hand in hand really well. They encapsulate the two words that dance around a person's life when they have a goal set in life. In the case of this blog post we are talking about the goal of "working" on a relationship. Though it sorta sounds bad to be "working" on a (potential) relationship, but inevitably when everyone looks at it it is basically what we all do. Firstly we all require a good foundation of CONFIDENCE that gives us the motivation to start on the journey of starting a relationship. From there on in there needs to be lots and lots of determination because we all know that nothing ever goes our way. And if things do go your way it's not the way you saw it playing out... and if they are... well then you're just really lucky hahaha (very pessimistic there i know hehehe). Nevertheless the results of having great motivation and determination in making a relationship happen can be immensely rewarding in the sense that your work has paid off, as mentioned in the definition of determination. On the flip side motivation and determination can also be the beginning of someone's utter failure. The idea of determination blinds people to the "signs". What "signs"? Well i'm sure you have a general idea of what kind of signs there are. In the general interaction between males and females the guy's are more clueless than the girls. This is to say that it's easier for girls to tell if a guy likes her, where as it's harder for guys to find out if girls like them. This is for the reason (i believe) that girls are generally more "friendly" than guys. This extra friendliness comes off as a toss up between being JUST friendly or something a little more, but guys never really know. That is of course if it's obvious... and most guys know the signs that scream that she isn't interested. HOWEVER I've also heard that even if a girl doesn't come off as interested as he may infer from certain events/conversations, there is still a chance she may still like him and it is merely coincidence that those "signs" were mis interpretted. I know it's very wishy washy, but really what isn't these days?
So in the end determination and motivation in one's mind should be taken lightly. Too much determination and you come off as a creeper, too little and you lose your self confidence... Motivation should be kept in check as well. Too much motivation will lead to hurting yourself too much, too little motivation leads to you doing nothing, being reserved in a sense and never knowing of "what if". I believe that if you at least try to go that little extra "step" a whole new world will be revealed to you, but it all comes down to if we're willing to go that extra step. I've seen both good and bad things come of going the extra step... i'd say 50%... so i'd say those are pretty good odds, don't you think? haha...
Life is life and we live it.
Thanks for reading,
DY
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Relationships Mixer 1
Dating – Defined as :: Of a couple, to be in the early stages of a relationship where they go out on dates to find out what each other is like, as a prelude to actually being a fully fledged couple…
Dating is an interesting issue in life. It’s a simple concept, which makes it that much more complex. For example, a simple dinner/evening out with someone for some quality one-on-one interaction (of the opposite sex) can be either with the intentions of getting to know someone for a friendship or a potential relationship in the future. However, the problem with encounters like this is that each of the two person’s intentions is not defined beforehand and usually never is. That is if one person asks another out on a “date-date”, but in this day and age it’s hard to come by anyone who actually asks for a straight-up “date”. Though in the past I’m sure it was a very normal thing to do and I’m sure people still do it today, so I suppose this is merely one side of the issue. Nevertheless, looking at this concept with the mystery of knowing if something is a date or not it usually happens that one person sees it as a date and the other doesn’t until the very end or an after analysis of their night. Then they get the thought “omg that was a date…” There are of course obvious signs of a date that people usually point out. The main/most common sign is the “guy” pays for whatever the two people do, dinner, coffee, night out, etc etc. Though this can be simply seen as a friendly/nice gesture and can easily be overlooked since one person paying can also happen anytime with any one-on-one interaction!
Dates also come in all sort of sizes and qualities. There are coffee dates, to dinner dates, to play dates and so on and so forth. This adds more to the fray where two friends could be just having fun! There are many people who have a girl/guy “best friend” and more likely than not one of the two will crack and build up more than mutual emotions for the other. This leads to disaster most of the time (epic fail!). So with all this confusion why don’t people just confront and see where the relationship/friendship is going? Well for one, awkwardness. Who wants to ask their “friend” if they think the friendship is growing into something more? To put your friend in that position is almost unfair unless they flat out say no, which then could potentially lead to awkward thoughts about the other person since they know that they were possibly interested. Secondly, it could be obvious if you and the other person are dating by your interactions with each other. It’s hard to gauge since everyone is different, but you could usually go with your gut instinct and be right about where it’s going. But it’s always bad to assume! Thirdly, people may just like playing "The Game" and as much as playing the game is complicated it also brings out a feeling of desire and chase in another person (and seeing if they can potentially change the feelings in the other person towards them), something to work on instead of being just neutral in it all.
This is all hypothetical and probably not as complicated as i put it to be, but again it also may be just that at the same time. Everyday we're encountered by social/relational interactions that we ourselves can never know the true motivations behind whatever is said/done. So what can we really do? Some people like to interpret things a lot, and personally i believe everyone interprets things to a certain extent if it pertains to them on a semi-significant level... lol... sooo my advice? don't over think... it's the best for you and the other person, take things as they are and go with it.
Totally random, but ever have one of those moments where you see someone you haven't seen in awhile while passing by in a hall or something and there's that gibber jabber that's exchanged? Like "Whoa... hey!... you!... what's up!" 2nd person, "Oh hey!... what are you doing? ohhh ____? cool... we'll talk later!! I gotta go... people... goin... gah!" annnd they're gone or you've passed way beyond talking distance... yeah...
ANYWAYS... this post was bound for failure ever since i didn't finish it in 1 sitting... /sigh... hopefully appreciate some of my insight to.. whatever i really talked about here... seems like alot of my posts turn from formal to informal alot... how unorthodox lolz.
Life is life and we all live it.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Dating is an interesting issue in life. It’s a simple concept, which makes it that much more complex. For example, a simple dinner/evening out with someone for some quality one-on-one interaction (of the opposite sex) can be either with the intentions of getting to know someone for a friendship or a potential relationship in the future. However, the problem with encounters like this is that each of the two person’s intentions is not defined beforehand and usually never is. That is if one person asks another out on a “date-date”, but in this day and age it’s hard to come by anyone who actually asks for a straight-up “date”. Though in the past I’m sure it was a very normal thing to do and I’m sure people still do it today, so I suppose this is merely one side of the issue. Nevertheless, looking at this concept with the mystery of knowing if something is a date or not it usually happens that one person sees it as a date and the other doesn’t until the very end or an after analysis of their night. Then they get the thought “omg that was a date…” There are of course obvious signs of a date that people usually point out. The main/most common sign is the “guy” pays for whatever the two people do, dinner, coffee, night out, etc etc. Though this can be simply seen as a friendly/nice gesture and can easily be overlooked since one person paying can also happen anytime with any one-on-one interaction!
Dates also come in all sort of sizes and qualities. There are coffee dates, to dinner dates, to play dates and so on and so forth. This adds more to the fray where two friends could be just having fun! There are many people who have a girl/guy “best friend” and more likely than not one of the two will crack and build up more than mutual emotions for the other. This leads to disaster most of the time (epic fail!). So with all this confusion why don’t people just confront and see where the relationship/friendship is going? Well for one, awkwardness. Who wants to ask their “friend” if they think the friendship is growing into something more? To put your friend in that position is almost unfair unless they flat out say no, which then could potentially lead to awkward thoughts about the other person since they know that they were possibly interested. Secondly, it could be obvious if you and the other person are dating by your interactions with each other. It’s hard to gauge since everyone is different, but you could usually go with your gut instinct and be right about where it’s going. But it’s always bad to assume! Thirdly, people may just like playing "The Game" and as much as playing the game is complicated it also brings out a feeling of desire and chase in another person (and seeing if they can potentially change the feelings in the other person towards them), something to work on instead of being just neutral in it all.
This is all hypothetical and probably not as complicated as i put it to be, but again it also may be just that at the same time. Everyday we're encountered by social/relational interactions that we ourselves can never know the true motivations behind whatever is said/done. So what can we really do? Some people like to interpret things a lot, and personally i believe everyone interprets things to a certain extent if it pertains to them on a semi-significant level... lol... sooo my advice? don't over think... it's the best for you and the other person, take things as they are and go with it.
Totally random, but ever have one of those moments where you see someone you haven't seen in awhile while passing by in a hall or something and there's that gibber jabber that's exchanged? Like "Whoa... hey!... you!... what's up!" 2nd person, "Oh hey!... what are you doing? ohhh ____? cool... we'll talk later!! I gotta go... people... goin... gah!" annnd they're gone or you've passed way beyond talking distance... yeah...
ANYWAYS... this post was bound for failure ever since i didn't finish it in 1 sitting... /sigh... hopefully appreciate some of my insight to.. whatever i really talked about here... seems like alot of my posts turn from formal to informal alot... how unorthodox lolz.
Life is life and we all live it.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Monday, March 9, 2009
March Series - 1 of __
Hello hello! It's been way too long i know! This week at work my boss is out till friday so i will try to write as much as possible to make up for not posting these past few weeks.
Post #1 - Life as it is. 3/9/09
As I'm sure you know my co-op job is very "easy" to say the least. I go to work everyday, do about an hour's hard work and i'm basically done for the day. Not that I don't have enough to do... but maybe it's because the work isn't challenging enough nor very interesting because it's so tedious... at first it was interesting though... then when i actually started going through the tedious process of about 100+ chemical agents it was like X_X. It's weird because whenever i talk to my boss about work, or what i'm going to do next, the topics interest me because i understand what we have to do next. Then again when the actual work comes around it's like blehhh. It's ok, at least i'm progessing on my project slowly. I do like killing time during work though, whether it be watching videos, reading news, or doing things on various other websites. And yes i get paid to do it all. Very rewarding eh? Plus on top of that I get a day off of work every 2 weeks (per pay period). Though i've already used my days off for going on KRUP, which stands for Katrina Relief Urban Plunge. I'll update more on that in another post.
Beyond work is my normal weekly schedule. Mondays i have IV and then Dance practice till late (which is now extending to more and more days of the week can't wait till it's over... but i also can't wait to perform, it's gonna be so awesome!... and quite feminen/cute... lol!), Tuesdays i have clan practice or go out, Wednesdays i usually go out, Thursdays i have Cornerstone SG, Fridays - Sundays i usually have something planned, whether it be going out with friends i don't usually see or some special event, hockey or w/e... sometimes there's shopping for groceries in there and Church on Sunday... and much needed excess sleep!
So generally there isn't too much stress in my life these days. I did get a parking ticket the other week and that made me very sad. I had hoped i wasn't going to get any ticket while in boston with my car. I guess i should be happy that it wasn't towed away! =X Oh well, I paid for the ticket and i will (hopefully) never get another ticket! Another sad thing that's happened in my life is that my BOSE earbuds are dying... most likely due to mis proper storing on my part... (I'd just sorta stuff them in pockets or w/e) I guess the internal wiring got bent the wrong way which doesn't really make too much sense... I've only had these headphones since Thanksgiving!!! =( I guess i'll have to venture to Natick Mall one day and buy a new pair and treat them better! haha. I'm sure there are other random splurts in my life but you know how it is... you can only write about so much and be on topic.
I plan to have at least 2 more posts after this one this week...
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Post #1 - Life as it is. 3/9/09
As I'm sure you know my co-op job is very "easy" to say the least. I go to work everyday, do about an hour's hard work and i'm basically done for the day. Not that I don't have enough to do... but maybe it's because the work isn't challenging enough nor very interesting because it's so tedious... at first it was interesting though... then when i actually started going through the tedious process of about 100+ chemical agents it was like X_X. It's weird because whenever i talk to my boss about work, or what i'm going to do next, the topics interest me because i understand what we have to do next. Then again when the actual work comes around it's like blehhh. It's ok, at least i'm progessing on my project slowly. I do like killing time during work though, whether it be watching videos, reading news, or doing things on various other websites. And yes i get paid to do it all. Very rewarding eh? Plus on top of that I get a day off of work every 2 weeks (per pay period). Though i've already used my days off for going on KRUP, which stands for Katrina Relief Urban Plunge. I'll update more on that in another post.
Beyond work is my normal weekly schedule. Mondays i have IV and then Dance practice till late (which is now extending to more and more days of the week can't wait till it's over... but i also can't wait to perform, it's gonna be so awesome!... and quite feminen/cute... lol!), Tuesdays i have clan practice or go out, Wednesdays i usually go out, Thursdays i have Cornerstone SG, Fridays - Sundays i usually have something planned, whether it be going out with friends i don't usually see or some special event, hockey or w/e... sometimes there's shopping for groceries in there and Church on Sunday... and much needed excess sleep!
So generally there isn't too much stress in my life these days. I did get a parking ticket the other week and that made me very sad. I had hoped i wasn't going to get any ticket while in boston with my car. I guess i should be happy that it wasn't towed away! =X Oh well, I paid for the ticket and i will (hopefully) never get another ticket! Another sad thing that's happened in my life is that my BOSE earbuds are dying... most likely due to mis proper storing on my part... (I'd just sorta stuff them in pockets or w/e) I guess the internal wiring got bent the wrong way which doesn't really make too much sense... I've only had these headphones since Thanksgiving!!! =( I guess i'll have to venture to Natick Mall one day and buy a new pair and treat them better! haha. I'm sure there are other random splurts in my life but you know how it is... you can only write about so much and be on topic.
I plan to have at least 2 more posts after this one this week...
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
The customer is always FAIL
Work is boring to put it plainly. I surf the internet most of the day and read random news articles and forums. Blah blah blah... i recently stumbled upon an amazingly awesome yet depressing website...
www.notalwaysright.com
One of the best sites to kill time! Basically it's a website dedicated to displaying the "stupidity", the "ignorance", and the plain non-sense that people encounter in their lives. I'm sure we've all had these moments, but some of these dialog rolls are just too ridiculous! Reading through some just have me cracking up at my computer and thankfully there's no one around me to wonder what i'm laughing at haha. If you haven't already gone to the website here's some of my favorites among many others (i've gone through like 50 pages of this stuff so many are good)...
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Win!
www.notalwaysright.com
One of the best sites to kill time! Basically it's a website dedicated to displaying the "stupidity", the "ignorance", and the plain non-sense that people encounter in their lives. I'm sure we've all had these moments, but some of these dialog rolls are just too ridiculous! Reading through some just have me cracking up at my computer and thankfully there's no one around me to wonder what i'm laughing at haha. If you haven't already gone to the website here's some of my favorites among many others (i've gone through like 50 pages of this stuff so many are good)...
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Me: “Hi, how can I help you?”
Customer: “I need to return this d*** camera.”
Me: “Sure, was it not working?”
Customer: “I just don’t want it, okay?”
Me: “Okay. Have you opened the box yet?”
Customer: “Why does that matter?”
Me: “Well, as the sticker on the box says, if the box is opened and you return it, I have to charge you a restocking fee.”
Customer: “Oh. No… no, it hasn’t been opened.”
(I look and the box has been clearly opened, with a torn seal.)
Me: “Uh… are you sure it hasn’t been opened?”
Customer: ”LOOK! ARE YOU CALLING ME A F***ING LIAR? Where is your manager? I spend hundreds of thousands of dollars here and this is how I’m treated?!”
Me: “Ma’am, if you just–”
Customer: “THESE PEOPLE CALL CUSTOMERS LIARS! DON’T SHOP HERE!”
Me: “Ma’am, I believe you! I will return it!”
Customer: “That’s right you will!”
Me: “Can I see your receipt?”
Customer: “It’s in the box.”
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(At our library, the computers are all self-sign up. All you have to do is type in your name and library card number. This is clearly posted on the side of the monitor. In walks a young woman and her boyfriend.)
Young woman: “Can you help me with this?”
Me: “What’s the problem?”
Young woman: “I don’t know what to do.”
Me: “The instructions are on the side of the monitor.”
Young woman: “But why can’t you tell me how to do it?”
Me: “Because it’s SELF-SIGN UP.”
Young woman: “But I need help!”
Me: “All you have to do is type in your name and library card number.”
Young woman: “But do I have to read the screen?”
Me: *confused* “Of… course. The screen tells you when to type in your information. You have to read the screen.”
Young woman: “BUT I DIDN’T COME INTO THE LIBRARY TO READ!”
Young woman’s boyfriend: *turns abruptly and walks out the door*
3
Me: “Welcome sir, did you get…”
(I look in his cart and see that it’s mostly filled with identical Spongebob DVDs.)
Me: “… everything?”
Man: “I guess so.”
Boy: “MORE SPONGEBOB! SPONGEBOB! SPONGEBOB!”
Man: “Alright, let’s go get some more.”
(About 5 minutes later he comes back, with more Spongebob DVDs… the same ones, to be exact.)
Man: “Alright, I think this is enough.”
(I ring him up, and the total comes to about $550.00 USD.)
Me: *whispering* “Uhh, sir… these are mostly the same thing.”
Man: “Oh, don’t worry about it. I hate my life anyway.”
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(I’ve just spent about 10 minutes answering fairly standard questions from a customer about an iPod. Then, they asked this one…)
Customer: “Oh, before you leave I have one more question!”
Me: “Sure, what can I help you with?”
Customer: “Will the iPod get heavier if I put more songs on it?”
Me: “No…?”
(I was so dumbfounded I didn’t realize how stupid the question actually was until 10 minutes later.)
5
Me: “Hello, technical support, how can I help?”
Customer: “I don’t know what’s wrong with my computer. Can you tell me?”
Me: “Well… can you explain what’s wrong?”
Customer: “Your job is to tell me what’s wrong.”
Me: “Yes, but unless you help me I can’t tell you what is wrong.”
Customer: “Why? Can’t you guess what’s wrong?”
(I have decided a this point whatever is wrong will be something stupid.)
Me: “Okay, maybe you can’t turn your computer on because it hasn’t got any power.”
Customer: *angrily* “DO YOU THINK I’M STUPID?”
(Suddenly, the customer calms down.)
Customer: “Sorry, you were wrong. It’s plugged in and the light is green. Can you guess what’s wrong? It’s still black on the screen.”
Me: “Well, is your screen on?”
Customer: “Yes, I just said it was. It’s just black!”
Me: “Right click.”
Customer: “Hey, it worked… oh, it was a screensaver. Couldn’t you have guessed it was that at the start?”
Me: *thud thud thud*
Customer: “What was that?”
Me: “Guess.”
Win!
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Work update...
Hello hello! so i'm taking a break from work to update a little for you... let's start with work in the first place!
So a few weeks into the job and it's almost the same, I have work to do, but it's tedious and time consuming. I'm closing in on the finish of a small project and plan on moving onto learning more complex things. The environment is very chill, even though i work IN a lab which means i can't snack or drink anything while at my workstation, instead i have to go next door (literally 4 feet away) and eat there or drink there. The other interns seem to have their hands full of things to do... or do they? Whenever i go into the office where the other interns are they are playing online flash games or reading something nonwork related... or if they are reading something work related it's for the 10354th time reading it hahahaha... I guess they do some things here and there... i think they'll be working harder soon, so far they feel that i'm the only one doing work haha... which is true in a way... Anyways I got paid last week and it's nice to see my account balance go UP for once haha... I've been writing checks left and right for rent or church retreats or missions trips recently and it's been just a downward slope for my checking account hehe. All in all though work is almost a joke at some points... the other interns and i joke around alot with this one lady that works with us in the office... she's... weird to put it bluntly... but we also think she snitched on us about playing flash games and napping in the morning hahaha, which i suppose we shouldn't do anyways xDDDD
Life outside coop is very fulfilling... Mondays i have InterVarsity and Dance practice for celebrasian (till midnight Dx), Tuesdays i'm usually free and relax, go out and hang with friends or just bum out in my room playing video games with my COD4 clan, usually there's a weekly practice at 9 pm for my team so it works out hehe, Wednesdays are almost the same as Tuesdays where my plans vary from week to week, whether it be going out with friends or staying in relaxing, like tonight (wednesday) i'm going out to Super 88 yum yum =], Thursdays i have Cornerstone smallgroup and usually fellowship after by... going to 88 or out to eat somewhere... love them hahaha, Fridays ... well anything can happen on Fridays... weekends are so nice on coop, I feel very free whenever the weekend comes around. Not having to worry about homework or tests enables me to go out whenever i want and stay out to a reasonable time... i usually wanna be back home before midnight so i get 6 hours of sleep... hehe.
I registered for classes this morning for summer session II, at a glance it seems like it's going to be intense! I have classes (2) from 8 AM till 1130 AM then i have labs every other day from 12 - 3 pm... crazy stuff imo... but it may not be as bad as it sounds... i hope hehe.
Being on coop has it's ups and downs... right now i'm thinking that i dont see many of my friends as often as i want to. This could be contributed to the fact that i live off campus, but at the same time i'm getting to know alot of new people which is plus... so i suppose it's just a matter of time management between friends and myself.
I have alot of exciting things for me in the next few months... hopefully you'll get a taste of it on my blog... or in person when i talk to you! =]
Thanks for reading,
DYung
So a few weeks into the job and it's almost the same, I have work to do, but it's tedious and time consuming. I'm closing in on the finish of a small project and plan on moving onto learning more complex things. The environment is very chill, even though i work IN a lab which means i can't snack or drink anything while at my workstation, instead i have to go next door (literally 4 feet away) and eat there or drink there. The other interns seem to have their hands full of things to do... or do they? Whenever i go into the office where the other interns are they are playing online flash games or reading something nonwork related... or if they are reading something work related it's for the 10354th time reading it hahahaha... I guess they do some things here and there... i think they'll be working harder soon, so far they feel that i'm the only one doing work haha... which is true in a way... Anyways I got paid last week and it's nice to see my account balance go UP for once haha... I've been writing checks left and right for rent or church retreats or missions trips recently and it's been just a downward slope for my checking account hehe. All in all though work is almost a joke at some points... the other interns and i joke around alot with this one lady that works with us in the office... she's... weird to put it bluntly... but we also think she snitched on us about playing flash games and napping in the morning hahaha, which i suppose we shouldn't do anyways xDDDD
Life outside coop is very fulfilling... Mondays i have InterVarsity and Dance practice for celebrasian (till midnight Dx), Tuesdays i'm usually free and relax, go out and hang with friends or just bum out in my room playing video games with my COD4 clan, usually there's a weekly practice at 9 pm for my team so it works out hehe, Wednesdays are almost the same as Tuesdays where my plans vary from week to week, whether it be going out with friends or staying in relaxing, like tonight (wednesday) i'm going out to Super 88 yum yum =], Thursdays i have Cornerstone smallgroup and usually fellowship after by... going to 88 or out to eat somewhere... love them hahaha, Fridays ... well anything can happen on Fridays... weekends are so nice on coop, I feel very free whenever the weekend comes around. Not having to worry about homework or tests enables me to go out whenever i want and stay out to a reasonable time... i usually wanna be back home before midnight so i get 6 hours of sleep... hehe.
I registered for classes this morning for summer session II, at a glance it seems like it's going to be intense! I have classes (2) from 8 AM till 1130 AM then i have labs every other day from 12 - 3 pm... crazy stuff imo... but it may not be as bad as it sounds... i hope hehe.
Being on coop has it's ups and downs... right now i'm thinking that i dont see many of my friends as often as i want to. This could be contributed to the fact that i live off campus, but at the same time i'm getting to know alot of new people which is plus... so i suppose it's just a matter of time management between friends and myself.
I have alot of exciting things for me in the next few months... hopefully you'll get a taste of it on my blog... or in person when i talk to you! =]
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
Life and Co-op
Hello hello! I've decided to get ready for bed a little earlier than normal JUST to write this blog post. I missed writing about random stuff and to be honest i just haven't had the time... not to say that blogging is a chore, but when i have time i like to relax in other ways.
So co-op started on January 12th, 1 week after i thought it would have started... i got an extra "week" of vacation which was merely me getting ready to drive up to boston with my car and then proceed to move my stuff in and get settled... surprisingly it went fairly well considering my stuff was scattered in about 4-5 different places... and i still have a couple small things i have yet to retrieve! hehe. Anyways... co-op... was mad boring all last week... did nothing... but still got paid hehee so the only down side was that it was boring... i think things are going to start pick up soon... i hope... otherwise it's all your parent's tax money going to me! to be bored... read books and news articles all day! ahhahaha =]] But yeah it's a pretty old place... old people... so the pace is slow... or i like to think of it as going at my own pace hehe.... If you don't know already I'm working for the US Army! I'm doing research for them... and i'll keep it at that for security reasons... but i'm pretty sure i can tell people since it's sorta like general research... nothing above a Grade 3 clearance level =P Anyways working life is different... i wake up at 6 am and get to work around 730... and leave at around 4 pm or earlier... then i come home... relax and play some games usually... and depending on the day i go out to NEU or various other locations to chill with peeps or if i have other obligations... etc etc... other than that... i wanna hang out with some more people that i haven't seen in awhile... but technicalities are always present... nevertheless i'll see them eventually and be very happy =)
My apartment... OWNS as usually... i have my own room and my suitemates share a room... granted it's not the biggest room in world... it's still mine.... my privacy or lack there of... and i can dirty it all i want since i'm living in it hahaha.... cooking is a slight issue... i've been pretty lazy recently, because work tires me and i dont wanna cook when i come home... but i did buy a bunch of cooking stuff... and i've even prepared some meats and stuff! lol.... also i'm missing some special sauces that people are holding for me... gotta get those back...
There's alot going on in my life right now... NOT just work surprisingly... i'm getting more involved in random things... it's all a jumble right now and i'll take it all in as it comes around... wow my fingers are really cold from typing.... grrrr prolly since i washed dishes earlier... stupid soap xDD
Anyways this weekend i'm going to an IV retreat... that's a huge thing to look forward too!!! i'm very excited... especially to see everyone i met last time and catch up with them etc =)
Ok I'll try to update at work when i get my own computer station!!! I know for a fact i can get to blogger.com... it's not blocked by the government firewalll.... and some how... facebook isn't either...!?!? looooool mega fail!! but w/e i dont mind =P
Thanks for reading,
DYung
So co-op started on January 12th, 1 week after i thought it would have started... i got an extra "week" of vacation which was merely me getting ready to drive up to boston with my car and then proceed to move my stuff in and get settled... surprisingly it went fairly well considering my stuff was scattered in about 4-5 different places... and i still have a couple small things i have yet to retrieve! hehe. Anyways... co-op... was mad boring all last week... did nothing... but still got paid hehee so the only down side was that it was boring... i think things are going to start pick up soon... i hope... otherwise it's all your parent's tax money going to me! to be bored... read books and news articles all day! ahhahaha =]] But yeah it's a pretty old place... old people... so the pace is slow... or i like to think of it as going at my own pace hehe.... If you don't know already I'm working for the US Army! I'm doing research for them... and i'll keep it at that for security reasons... but i'm pretty sure i can tell people since it's sorta like general research... nothing above a Grade 3 clearance level =P Anyways working life is different... i wake up at 6 am and get to work around 730... and leave at around 4 pm or earlier... then i come home... relax and play some games usually... and depending on the day i go out to NEU or various other locations to chill with peeps or if i have other obligations... etc etc... other than that... i wanna hang out with some more people that i haven't seen in awhile... but technicalities are always present... nevertheless i'll see them eventually and be very happy =)
My apartment... OWNS as usually... i have my own room and my suitemates share a room... granted it's not the biggest room in world... it's still mine.... my privacy or lack there of... and i can dirty it all i want since i'm living in it hahaha.... cooking is a slight issue... i've been pretty lazy recently, because work tires me and i dont wanna cook when i come home... but i did buy a bunch of cooking stuff... and i've even prepared some meats and stuff! lol.... also i'm missing some special sauces that people are holding for me... gotta get those back...
There's alot going on in my life right now... NOT just work surprisingly... i'm getting more involved in random things... it's all a jumble right now and i'll take it all in as it comes around... wow my fingers are really cold from typing.... grrrr prolly since i washed dishes earlier... stupid soap xDD
Anyways this weekend i'm going to an IV retreat... that's a huge thing to look forward too!!! i'm very excited... especially to see everyone i met last time and catch up with them etc =)
Ok I'll try to update at work when i get my own computer station!!! I know for a fact i can get to blogger.com... it's not blocked by the government firewalll.... and some how... facebook isn't either...!?!? looooool mega fail!! but w/e i dont mind =P
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Friday, January 16, 2009
SORRY
FOR NOT POSTING!!!! I PROMISE ONE THIS WEEKEND........... or even during work on tuesday! LOL it's so boring.... sorta. =]
DY
EDIT:: Soo i failed at updating... =( things are starting to pick up at work and at night i have things to dooo!
DY
EDIT:: Soo i failed at updating... =( things are starting to pick up at work and at night i have things to dooo!
Sunday, January 4, 2009
She needs to be...
Hmm did you notice the new layout? I like it, do you? Anyways one quirk about it is that there's no date on my posts! oh no! So i'll put the date for you and me for future sakes... or i'll prolly end up changing the layout to have the date displayed. Now onto the post...
January 4th, 2008
I was asked recently by someone what were the top 5 traits i looked for in a potential significant other and at first i thought "oh that can't be too hard" and i started to think, but when it comes down to it there are so many things that one would want in a significant other! However to me? I think i came up with 5 that i would rate as some of my top traits. These traits are all looking at the personality mind you, looks are all based on attractiveness for me, and well... maybe that'll be a different post topic. Hehe.
1. Food tastes - As simple as it sounds food is a very important factor. It's what brings two people together in an environment where you two are sharing in something that you BOTH enjoy. If she doesn't like what i like in food categories then how boring would that be? I know it works out for people where one person may be a vegetarian and the other not caring, but it always brings in that tension or disagreement gap and if you have meals with your significant other as often as you should, things will get grindy at one point or another. Food is what we all need and for me it's what i indulge in. I enjoy my food to its fullest and i, as silly as it sounds, have massive cravings for certain types of food. Especially when i'm college, i have lots of choices if i went out to eat! Food tastes dont have to be EXACTLY the same, but i mean it's not that hard to agree on a majority of my "liked" food tastes... right? With agreeing food tastes she also has to be open-minded about food! Being adventurous with your food is something that is hard to find with people, and granted i always have my "regular" food choices, i like to have someone else to go out and "try" something new, since for both of people it's a new thing to explore and that will be an area in your lives that will always grow! =]
2. Independent - Girls who are independent take care of themselves. No doubt in that. But wait... so doesn't that mean she doesn't need YOU in her life? On the surface yes... let's take a look deeper... Being independent entails that your life is in your control or somewhat in your control. You know what needs to be done and you know when it needs to be done by! If you need to find out something you do just that! No sitting around and thinking that the answer will come walking by. Essentially you can take care of yourself with mostly no help, this includes having a job and sustaining yourself, by yourself! Not saying that they're a loner, social life is a totally different aspect! Now having an independent girl is important because as an independent girl she takes care of everything in her life and if there's something wrong with it she tries to fix it, she cherishes what she has since she's earned it in her own way, or she's put effort into making it what it is. Thus having a relationship in her life she will take care of it and cherish it for what a relationship should be (ideally). Granted there's no one that's completely independent, but when you get to know someone you can always sense some sort of independence in them or lack there of.
3. Knows what she wants - When you think of this you may say "that goes hand in hand with an independent girl... right?" Well I think there's room to say that a girl could be independent but she also might not know what she wants in life. She knows how to take care of herself, but when it comes down to decisions to make she either doesn't care enough or seeks advice for the right direction and whatever sounds nice she goes with! This is all very specific and probably extreme since almost everyone knows what they want in some form or another, but not everyone expresses it. In a relationship it's very important that both people rely on each other for support! Thus when it comes down to it when, say for example, the guy asks the girl what she wants to eat, she should have some sort of idea in her mind, and not answer with a weak "whatever you wanna eat". I know it happens in all relationships, but say if the girl has no say in what goes on, then that's just really pointless! So maybe a better way of explaining this is to change "knows what she wants" to "headstrong" on a very light level because if she's too headstrong... then she becomes too controlling? maybe... haha. Hopefully you get the general idea of this trait... somewhere between the two extremes...? - Fail!
4. Comfortable with herself - When i say this i mean it in the sense of expressing herself well enough that she doesn't have to think twice about whatever. This is probably almost impossible to have in any person, but hey we can always try right? haha. One aspect about this is music! Music is a very big part of me. Sharing similar music tastes is always a plus! Then when it comes down to it, dancing! I definitely want someone i can dance with, as cheesy as it sounds. But hey! I like dancing! and if she's comfortable with herself she will too! Hehe. Then furthermore if she's comfortable with herself she won't really have a hard time expressing herself to me and what she needs/wants. (See it ties into a headstrong girl! sorta. haha)
5. Finally - Chemistry/Thinking frequency - Probably the most important trait among many others, but having chemistry covers alot of other ideal traits i suppose. I think you know what chemistry is and i dont really have anything specific to go into with it. Though the same "thinking frequency" is key for many reasons. To name one, sense of humor, if two people in a relationship aren't on the same thinking frequency they won't really think each other's nick nacks are funny, and how boring is that? Being able to understand each other is very important to me and yeah you might say "well no DUH"... but there are always those few relationships that fail in this department. I think it's a little obvious as to why it would be important to me or anybody.
Ok so these 5 traits are totally not my top 5 per say. There's no way to put words to what I look for in a girl, when i meet her and get to know her i'll just know! right? right. So yet another epic fail for this post since it's all very idealistic haha. But it's definitely something i look for, but seeing as i'm a very flexible guy these traits mean almost nothing as long as she's just a little of each of them... or maybe not at all! hahaha. OR! Maybe it's that these few traits are what i notice in girls and when i do notice them.. they ring in my mind as "Oooo she's a catch!" and from there... anything can happen.
I hope you enjoyed reading even though it was as random and un orthodox as i didn't want it to be.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
January 4th, 2008
I was asked recently by someone what were the top 5 traits i looked for in a potential significant other and at first i thought "oh that can't be too hard" and i started to think, but when it comes down to it there are so many things that one would want in a significant other! However to me? I think i came up with 5 that i would rate as some of my top traits. These traits are all looking at the personality mind you, looks are all based on attractiveness for me, and well... maybe that'll be a different post topic. Hehe.
1. Food tastes - As simple as it sounds food is a very important factor. It's what brings two people together in an environment where you two are sharing in something that you BOTH enjoy. If she doesn't like what i like in food categories then how boring would that be? I know it works out for people where one person may be a vegetarian and the other not caring, but it always brings in that tension or disagreement gap and if you have meals with your significant other as often as you should, things will get grindy at one point or another. Food is what we all need and for me it's what i indulge in. I enjoy my food to its fullest and i, as silly as it sounds, have massive cravings for certain types of food. Especially when i'm college, i have lots of choices if i went out to eat! Food tastes dont have to be EXACTLY the same, but i mean it's not that hard to agree on a majority of my "liked" food tastes... right? With agreeing food tastes she also has to be open-minded about food! Being adventurous with your food is something that is hard to find with people, and granted i always have my "regular" food choices, i like to have someone else to go out and "try" something new, since for both of people it's a new thing to explore and that will be an area in your lives that will always grow! =]
2. Independent - Girls who are independent take care of themselves. No doubt in that. But wait... so doesn't that mean she doesn't need YOU in her life? On the surface yes... let's take a look deeper... Being independent entails that your life is in your control or somewhat in your control. You know what needs to be done and you know when it needs to be done by! If you need to find out something you do just that! No sitting around and thinking that the answer will come walking by. Essentially you can take care of yourself with mostly no help, this includes having a job and sustaining yourself, by yourself! Not saying that they're a loner, social life is a totally different aspect! Now having an independent girl is important because as an independent girl she takes care of everything in her life and if there's something wrong with it she tries to fix it, she cherishes what she has since she's earned it in her own way, or she's put effort into making it what it is. Thus having a relationship in her life she will take care of it and cherish it for what a relationship should be (ideally). Granted there's no one that's completely independent, but when you get to know someone you can always sense some sort of independence in them or lack there of.
3. Knows what she wants - When you think of this you may say "that goes hand in hand with an independent girl... right?" Well I think there's room to say that a girl could be independent but she also might not know what she wants in life. She knows how to take care of herself, but when it comes down to decisions to make she either doesn't care enough or seeks advice for the right direction and whatever sounds nice she goes with! This is all very specific and probably extreme since almost everyone knows what they want in some form or another, but not everyone expresses it. In a relationship it's very important that both people rely on each other for support! Thus when it comes down to it when, say for example, the guy asks the girl what she wants to eat, she should have some sort of idea in her mind, and not answer with a weak "whatever you wanna eat". I know it happens in all relationships, but say if the girl has no say in what goes on, then that's just really pointless! So maybe a better way of explaining this is to change "knows what she wants" to "headstrong" on a very light level because if she's too headstrong... then she becomes too controlling? maybe... haha. Hopefully you get the general idea of this trait... somewhere between the two extremes...? - Fail!
4. Comfortable with herself - When i say this i mean it in the sense of expressing herself well enough that she doesn't have to think twice about whatever. This is probably almost impossible to have in any person, but hey we can always try right? haha. One aspect about this is music! Music is a very big part of me. Sharing similar music tastes is always a plus! Then when it comes down to it, dancing! I definitely want someone i can dance with, as cheesy as it sounds. But hey! I like dancing! and if she's comfortable with herself she will too! Hehe. Then furthermore if she's comfortable with herself she won't really have a hard time expressing herself to me and what she needs/wants. (See it ties into a headstrong girl! sorta. haha)
5. Finally - Chemistry/Thinking frequency - Probably the most important trait among many others, but having chemistry covers alot of other ideal traits i suppose. I think you know what chemistry is and i dont really have anything specific to go into with it. Though the same "thinking frequency" is key for many reasons. To name one, sense of humor, if two people in a relationship aren't on the same thinking frequency they won't really think each other's nick nacks are funny, and how boring is that? Being able to understand each other is very important to me and yeah you might say "well no DUH"... but there are always those few relationships that fail in this department. I think it's a little obvious as to why it would be important to me or anybody.
Ok so these 5 traits are totally not my top 5 per say. There's no way to put words to what I look for in a girl, when i meet her and get to know her i'll just know! right? right. So yet another epic fail for this post since it's all very idealistic haha. But it's definitely something i look for, but seeing as i'm a very flexible guy these traits mean almost nothing as long as she's just a little of each of them... or maybe not at all! hahaha. OR! Maybe it's that these few traits are what i notice in girls and when i do notice them.. they ring in my mind as "Oooo she's a catch!" and from there... anything can happen.
I hope you enjoyed reading even though it was as random and un orthodox as i didn't want it to be.
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Friday, January 2, 2009
Jumbled...
Hmm I feel i should try to have some organization for this post... or maybe i'll write separate posts for what i wanna write... hmmm...
So it's now 2009 and 2008 was here then gone in a blink of an eye.
Time definitely flies, it feels like just yesterday it was January 2008 and i was starting my second semester of college. Now i'm ending my 3rd semester and working for half a year... the start of what i like to think as the 3 year meat of my undergraduate education... coop and school for the next 3 years! then a nice breading at the end with a regular year of academics to finish it off. Anyways I'll try to recap some major things that happened this past 2008?... Here goes...
Thanks for reading,
DYung
So it's now 2009 and 2008 was here then gone in a blink of an eye.
Time definitely flies, it feels like just yesterday it was January 2008 and i was starting my second semester of college. Now i'm ending my 3rd semester and working for half a year... the start of what i like to think as the 3 year meat of my undergraduate education... coop and school for the next 3 years! then a nice breading at the end with a regular year of academics to finish it off. Anyways I'll try to recap some major things that happened this past 2008?... Here goes...
- I don't think i set a new year's resolution last year... soo fail on that note haha...
- I've learned not to get emotionally involved... with anyone except for the reason of building a stronger friendship... not for liking reasons though (maybe...??)! I don't know if this is a bad thing since it sorta makes me hesitant on whether or not i want to get emotionally involved with someone... both with friends and potential significant others! but then it also protects me from worrying about relationships/friendships more than i need to... My fall 08 semester was very busy and i think that's when my distant self started to develop... granted i met a tonn of new people and i'm very thankful for that... but even still! I DID get emotionally involved... and slowly stopped myself... see? it seems like a bad thing in my mind since it's like i'm missing out on opportunities or whatever... So it's almost as if i'm conflicted with it all... do i be transparent to others? or be cautious about what i say to others... In my mind i think i want to be transparent to others (and when i say transparent i mean like no fake personalities that i show to others or not caring what i say around people or w/e...)... being transparent allows for more open relationships which is always a plus! OK actually thinking about it... i wasn't very conservative with my relationships... and in fact i WAS transparent... BUT there were my exceptions... that i almost wish i acted differently.... soo my year consisted of relationships that i was both transparent and conservative with... I guess it all comes down to what i want to come out of the relationship/friendship... Cause to be honest i think i'm a very open person... it's just a matter of asking! Initially i'm not going to blabber my mouth around, but when it comes down to it... my 1 on 1 interaction with people is on a very personal level. I love 1 on 1 interaction... it allows for much much more significant conversation to occur! Of course i enjoy group environments though... but depending on the group of people i can sometimes be one of the quiet - er ones..? and i dont really observe myself too often so i don't know hahaha. uhhh ok wow i think i totally contradicted myself... sooo i suppose the first half of this paragraph about not getting emotionally involved is more directed towards girls i like to put it plainly. But it definitely does not mean i can't have conversation with them... it's more of an internal battle for my mind... which makes me lean towards friendzone with many people. Again... not the worst thing in the world to be part of my life (laballed as friendzone to potential significant others)... I've almost gotten use to it... like an expectation to be put into the friendzone... sooo when it doesn't end up that way... it'll be a surprise! and thus be more signficant and exciting for me! hehehe but also friendzone also is like an investment into relationships! cause in the future things change... and anything can happen then =) aka get me the efff out of friendzone! So cutting off emotional attachment in a relationship automatically makes me direct the relationship towards friendzone... and i think it happens without my even knowing... since i'm not on the other end observing myself i dont know what kind of vibes i give off! lol. But friendzone isn't such a bad thing right?... like i said things could be worse...
- In continuation to the last tangent bullet... my label has definitely been confirmed in many different instances that I'm merely a "Good guy" or a "Good friend"... or to generalize... the typical "nice guy"? I've been told with people that i talk to that they feel like they've known me for forever once we get to know each other... i find it amazing how things can end up that way... but it's just how i am!... i'd like to think that people feel confortable talking to/hanging out with me... and i definitely get that vibe... but again... i'm only me and have no judgement on myself. ANYWAYS i'm talking about myself too much...
- So in a nut shell... 2008 was:
- I met alot of new people, built up many of my relationships/friendships, made money (summer ebay), witnessed a family friend survive a STROKE (huge miracle, thank God!), witnessed my uncle survive through a brain tumor/cancer (thank God again!), did decent in school (but of course not up to my mom's standard, but to mine i did good), learned alot about my faith (the handful of retreats helped with this alot).
Thanks for reading,
DYung
Monday, December 29, 2008
Informalities...
Being informal has been slowly infused into our generation slowly and slowly... first it was AIM/MSN/YIM/ICQ/whatever other instant messaging program... then it was cell phone texting... then it was wall to wall posts on facebook... and of course along with that came facebook CHAT... Everyone has their own views on such types of communication... it's either you love it or hate it... and that's just life.
With these various ways of informal communication comes the pros and cons of each... the pros being what makes it more convenient for you... and the cons being the frustration that each brings into our lives...
AIM is where it all started... and dont get me wrong i still use aim nowadays but definitely not as often as i did say 3-5 years ago.... the possible pros of aim/any instant messanger is that you talk to multiple people at once about various different things... duh right? it also shows your availability to others on aim... that you're available to talk to instead of it being an unknown thing all the time. Also you can do other things... like hw and still talk to people at the sametime! it's crazy... and distracting at times... but nice to have someone to talk to here and there when you wanna take a break.... now the cons of aim are that it's informal (duh) to put it plainly... but with the ability to be so distracted on aim with hw or talking to multiple people brings up the issue that whoever is talking isn't truly fully into the conversation... and isn't that what conversation is all about? having 1 on 1 interaction with someone should be significant... even if it's talking about something ridiculous or small talk... my experience with aim has been all over the place... from really short conversations with people i dont wanna talk to (another con) to long drawn out conversations with my friends. and i do like the flexibility of it all... as informal as it is... sometimes it's just what i need... where i can take my time to respond to certain things or get other things done and still catchup with a friend. One final frustration about aim could be delayed responses when you really need/want a fast paced conversation to happen on aim... cause come on... they're fun! or you might just need to know something asap... and the person on the other end doesn't realize this. I'm sure there are little things here and there about instant messaging that we love and hate... too many to name!
Then there's texting... a very controversial way of communication... almost anything can happen via texting... it's direct to a person... but not at the sametime... sometimes they dont have their cellphone on them... and sometimes they see the text and decide not to respond... but you as the texter... never know! everyone's different when it comes to texting as well... and granted i know not everyone has unlimited texting... but when it comes down to it almost everyone has a significant texting plan... (prolly around 80%) personally i'm an avid texter... when the times calls for it that is... i can dish out full length messages very quickly and thus it is slightly efficient way of communication for me... to get a message out to someone and then be on my way! my family knows that texting is huge... so we have a family plan that's unlimited texting with 700 shared minutes... and then of course unlimited night and weekends... this works out perfectly! the shared 700 minutes are simple for those out of Verizon network people that we call occasionally since the IN network is free always... anyways texting is a very convenient way of communication for the informal type that is needed sometimes... of course it's always more convenient to just call someone and dish about 5 full text messages in like 20 seconds... lol... it's annoying sometimes that it could just be that... but i guess the thing around text messaging is is that it's over a period of time so yes there's more time to think of small responses and then of course if you're doing something important you can respond here and there... or just for texting during class/when you're bored... either way texting has become a part of our lives that just works... and as much as i hate having that mystery of whether or not someone is going to respond... i still use it... I will admit i dont respond to texts sometimes... but it's usually not on purpose and will usually follow up with the person if i sorta just stop a "conversation" going on via texting... and so i guess it's hypocritical to find it annoying that sometimes people dont respond back to me!... oh well... texting... it's just life.
Now facebook wall to walls are probably the worst... it's like... not even close to direct as a text... and it takes hours on end to get a message to someone (for them to actually read)... though i guess that's one of the pros of facebook... to be really really indirect and informal about communication... then i suppose facebook chat is their attempt to eliminate wall to wall conversations... like posting wall to wall every minute... like what's the point? to show the world you can have a conversation on facebook that everyone can read? ehh something like that haha... so basically facebook is like emailing... messaging over time since you dont have "time" to actually talk to a person face to face (distance) or on the phone (both people are on different time schedules)
In conclusion, these few informalities of our lives come natural to us, some more than others granted, but in the end all these ways of "communication" are used for whatever means... and as sad as it is -it's accepted!
I know i said i'd update you on my semester and stuff... but uhh last night i decided to write about this and continued/finished today.
I'll update on the other stuff soon!
Thanks for reading,
DYung
With these various ways of informal communication comes the pros and cons of each... the pros being what makes it more convenient for you... and the cons being the frustration that each brings into our lives...
AIM is where it all started... and dont get me wrong i still use aim nowadays but definitely not as often as i did say 3-5 years ago.... the possible pros of aim/any instant messanger is that you talk to multiple people at once about various different things... duh right? it also shows your availability to others on aim... that you're available to talk to instead of it being an unknown thing all the time. Also you can do other things... like hw and still talk to people at the sametime! it's crazy... and distracting at times... but nice to have someone to talk to here and there when you wanna take a break.... now the cons of aim are that it's informal (duh) to put it plainly... but with the ability to be so distracted on aim with hw or talking to multiple people brings up the issue that whoever is talking isn't truly fully into the conversation... and isn't that what conversation is all about? having 1 on 1 interaction with someone should be significant... even if it's talking about something ridiculous or small talk... my experience with aim has been all over the place... from really short conversations with people i dont wanna talk to (another con) to long drawn out conversations with my friends. and i do like the flexibility of it all... as informal as it is... sometimes it's just what i need... where i can take my time to respond to certain things or get other things done and still catchup with a friend. One final frustration about aim could be delayed responses when you really need/want a fast paced conversation to happen on aim... cause come on... they're fun! or you might just need to know something asap... and the person on the other end doesn't realize this. I'm sure there are little things here and there about instant messaging that we love and hate... too many to name!
Then there's texting... a very controversial way of communication... almost anything can happen via texting... it's direct to a person... but not at the sametime... sometimes they dont have their cellphone on them... and sometimes they see the text and decide not to respond... but you as the texter... never know! everyone's different when it comes to texting as well... and granted i know not everyone has unlimited texting... but when it comes down to it almost everyone has a significant texting plan... (prolly around 80%) personally i'm an avid texter... when the times calls for it that is... i can dish out full length messages very quickly and thus it is slightly efficient way of communication for me... to get a message out to someone and then be on my way! my family knows that texting is huge... so we have a family plan that's unlimited texting with 700 shared minutes... and then of course unlimited night and weekends... this works out perfectly! the shared 700 minutes are simple for those out of Verizon network people that we call occasionally since the IN network is free always... anyways texting is a very convenient way of communication for the informal type that is needed sometimes... of course it's always more convenient to just call someone and dish about 5 full text messages in like 20 seconds... lol... it's annoying sometimes that it could just be that... but i guess the thing around text messaging is is that it's over a period of time so yes there's more time to think of small responses and then of course if you're doing something important you can respond here and there... or just for texting during class/when you're bored... either way texting has become a part of our lives that just works... and as much as i hate having that mystery of whether or not someone is going to respond... i still use it... I will admit i dont respond to texts sometimes... but it's usually not on purpose and will usually follow up with the person if i sorta just stop a "conversation" going on via texting... and so i guess it's hypocritical to find it annoying that sometimes people dont respond back to me!... oh well... texting... it's just life.
Now facebook wall to walls are probably the worst... it's like... not even close to direct as a text... and it takes hours on end to get a message to someone (for them to actually read)... though i guess that's one of the pros of facebook... to be really really indirect and informal about communication... then i suppose facebook chat is their attempt to eliminate wall to wall conversations... like posting wall to wall every minute... like what's the point? to show the world you can have a conversation on facebook that everyone can read? ehh something like that haha... so basically facebook is like emailing... messaging over time since you dont have "time" to actually talk to a person face to face (distance) or on the phone (both people are on different time schedules)
In conclusion, these few informalities of our lives come natural to us, some more than others granted, but in the end all these ways of "communication" are used for whatever means... and as sad as it is -it's accepted!
I know i said i'd update you on my semester and stuff... but uhh last night i decided to write about this and continued/finished today.
I'll update on the other stuff soon!
Thanks for reading,
DYung
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